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bridal shower gift - a FMIL etiquette question

I am going to a bridal shower this weekend with my FMIL.  Originally, we had decided to go together on a gift for the bride and groom.  She went shopping and got the gift.  I've asked her a few times how much I owe, but she just kind of brushes me off and hasn't given me an amount.  As far as I know, the plan is still to go together on the gift.  She hasn't said otherwise, and I'd really like to write her a check for my half. 

Since the shower is this weekend, I'm not going to have time to get another gift, and I don't really want to do that anyway since, like I said, I think we are still going together on the gift.  What should I do?  Should I just guess on an amount and write her a check for that? 

I'd feel really uncomfortable putting my name on a gift that I didn't help pay for, and I don't want her to think that I'm trying to stick her with the whole amount.

Any advice you can give would be appreciated.  Thank you!
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