My FI and I decided that we wanted a family and very close friends only wedding to cut costs. All of my friends have been totally understanding so far except one. She freaked out that she wasn't invited - I played the music for her wedding. I explained to her that we don't have a lot of money and our parents aren't contributing to the wedding because they don't have a lot of money either. I also told her that it was a family wedding and the only two friends I'm inviting are like family to me - they come to my house for holidays.
This friend wanted to sit me down and lecture me on how to have a wedding on a budget (because then she could be invited). I thanked her, but told her that I didn't want to discuss the wedding. She only relented about being invited when I said that we'd have a pot luck picnic in the summer to celebrate with our group of friends. Phew, crisis averted; stress gone!
This weekend, my mother and I were out together and we saw my friend. She told my mom that if there was any planning help to ask her because she knows all about budgeting for a wedding. As she was walking away she said, "I'll probably wear my wedding dress to your wedding!" and giggled. My mother and I turned to each other and exchanged a look of bewildered horror.
What? and WHAT?? She must have either forgotten or has chosen to forget that she ISN'T INVITED!! We are at a loss on what to do.
Invitations are going out this week. Should I:
1.) Just invite her and her husband to stop the drama/stress?
2.) Stick to my guns and not invite them?
If I choose #1 I'll feel sad for not inviting my other friends to whom I feel much closer.
If I choose #2 I am scared that it will set off a nuclear bomb. I have been on her wrong side before and it was one of the more stressful times in my life. She really knows how to make a person feel uncomfortable/hated.
I'm not even touching the fact that she plans to wear her wedding dress to my wedding right now.