sister planning wedding close to my date

drhieb6

My fiance proposed to me a little over two months ago and we have already started planning, including setting a date and putting our deposit down on the venue.  Our families have known our date in comcrete for a few weeks now.  Yesterday my sister called me and told me she was engaged and they were thinking of having the wedding within a couple weeks of ours.  Since the conversation with her I have been getting more frusterated with the whole situation.  Not to mention the fact that I feel like it's rude, but that would also mean a lot of stress for my whole family who are all helping out in their own way toward my wedding, and probably will be with hers.  I was thinking of politely asking her to think of moving her date for the sake of everyone involved and lend my hand to working with her to help with her wedding and ideas if she wants. Is that too rude?

juno2553

You feeling she'd be stealing your thunder aside,  planning a wedding can be mind-numbingly exhausting especially for the bride & her parents. It's also an expensive piece of business for your guests. Giving folks on the guest list time to recover from engagment,shower, travel, overnite stays & wedding gifts between both your big dates would be nice. Not to mention MOH duties,assuming you're both still on speaking terms. What a drag to no sooner get back from your honeymoon and have to start all over again. Yikes.  No dates seem to be booked thou. So unless there's an urgency (i.e the proverbial shotgun affair) a comfortable space in between  seems vital, considerate & a loving sister thing to do.

mcskatcat

I would echo everyone else that said to let your parents deal with it.  If they feel like it will be a hassle for your family to have two weddings in a short period of time, then I would say it's up to them to express that.  Coming from you it willl sound like "I can't have anyone getting married so close and stealing my thunder."  Which, from your OP, kind of sounds like what you mean.

If you do have a lot of relatives traveling, that is a burden.  My SIL originally wanted to get married shortly after us, but some of her relatives had just traveled to our wedding and wouldn't have been able to afford traveling to another wedding so soon.  Her parents, since they were paying, put a stop to it and said they wanted their relatives to comfortably be able to attend.  For me, the only time two weddings close together are only unacceptable if it's going to create a challenge for the overlap in the guest list, WP, parents, etc.