Is it ok to send OOT guests a postcard STD and in-town guests an email STD?

clearheavens

I am naive when it comes to invitation etiquette so kind advice would help this poor girl!  I'm thinking of sending OOT guests a postcard STD and in-town guests an email STD.  The approximate breakdown is 10% are OOTand all family and 90% are in-town.  Do you think this would be appropriate?

danieliza1127

I don't really see the point.  If you're going to do e-mail save the dates for some, why not just do them for all?

twilight.rose

I would either do email STDs for everyone, or simply send postcards to the OOT guests. STDs are traditionally used for those who may need to make travel arrangements, etc. You aren't required to send them to local guests (or at all if you choose not to.)

clearheavens

EDIT: I made a mistake on the third option on the poll.

It says, "No, but only in this case, because your OOT guest numbers are only 10%."

But I meant to write, "Yes, but only in this case, because your OOT guest numbers are only 10%."

clearheavens

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-send-oot-guests-postcard-std-town-guests-email-std?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:11df369e-42af-4b4c-9a9d-db2fbcb1eeddPost:18401e79-f75e-409f-9aef-9c1341c83601">Re: Is it ok to send OOT guests a postcard STD and in-town guests an email STD?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't really see the point.  If you're going to do e-mail save the dates for some, why not just do them for all?
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]<div>
<div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span"><a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" href="http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/default.aspx?membershipid=8561220349204836&plckUserId=8561220349204836" target="_blank" class="username_knot">danieliza1127</a>, it's because the OOT guests are those that need it the most, and my family has members who are elderly and don't use e-mail. </span></div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span></div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Technically, this also means that if there are in-town guests who don't have e-mail, they won't be getting an STD, either.  But the good side is that they don't need any travel accomodations and won't need an STD as much, right?</span></div></div>

brilibby4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-send-oot-guests-postcard-std-town-guests-email-std?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:11df369e-42af-4b4c-9a9d-db2fbcb1eeddPost:18401e79-f75e-409f-9aef-9c1341c83601">Re: Is it ok to send OOT guests a postcard STD and in-town guests an email STD?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't really see the point.  If you're going to do e-mail save the dates for some, why not just do them for all?
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

This.  I guess I don't understand why you wouldn't just pick one or the other?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I sent postcards to my OOT guests and the in-town guests didn't get squat.

ehathewa

I did email for everyone.  I was saving the environment... not being cheap.

JennaV26

I'm not okay with e-invites/STDs for anything wedding related so I'd vote no regardless of the OOT/in-town ratio.

hz80408

side post: Jenna...love your siggy pic! You look gorgeous!! Congrats!

JennaV26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ok-send-oot-guests-postcard-std-town-guests-email-std?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:11df369e-42af-4b4c-9a9d-db2fbcb1eeddPost:0ec3140a-e493-45bf-8ef3-2fe119da2cec">Re: Is it ok to send OOT guests a postcard STD and in-town guests an email STD?</a>:
[QUOTE]side post: Jenna...love your siggy pic! You look gorgeous!! Congrats!
Posted by hz80408[/QUOTE]

Thank you!! My photographers just put up the sneak peak of our wedding pics and my bridals so I'll AW them when they're all up - I'm so excited!

JennaV26

Hey HZ I just checked out your wedding site and I had to tell you that I had a dog named Oscar too! Anndd Chicago might be my all-time favorite city! My best friend lives there and I went every year in college - man I miss it!!