do you think this looks bad??

mrsjustinm2b

OK, so first things first we DO NOT have an a list and a b list, but I have all the families addresses and not all those from friends and coworkers yet, and I finished and sent out the family ones.  Uncle Idiot starts posting all over FB that he got his invite... and asking every freaking member of the family if they got theirs....thank god they are all invited.

I haven't sent out all the friends/coworkers ones yet since I wanted to batch them to make it easier on myself and make sure I didn't miss any. I also don't want people to think they were B listed when they were not. Should I do anything about this, or would most people not have noticed do you think?

Beachy730

3 months is really early to send invites, so I think people are going to think you are doing a B list regardless of what you do to try and rectify the situation.  

If anything is posted on your wall, delete it.  And get the rest of the invites out ASAP.  Instead of making it easier on yourself, you should have just waited another month and sent them all together.  

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]OK, so first things first we DO NOT have an a list and a b list, but I have all the families addresses and not all those from friends and coworkers yet, and I finished and sent out the family ones.  Uncle Idiot starts posting all over FB that he got his invite... and asking every freaking member of the family if they got theirs....thank god they are all invited. I haven't sent out all the friends/coworkers ones yet since I wanted to batch them to make it easier on myself and make sure I didn't miss any. I also don't want people to think they were B listed when they were not. Should I do anything about this, or would most people not have noticed do you think?
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redheadfsu

Yep, get all the invites out within the next few days. Of course guests talk. It is your fault for sending them out early & in batches. Do all of the rest of the invites asap.

 (I know you said you are not doing A/B lists, but this is a great example of why A/B lists never work).

mrsjustinm2b

Yeah, I should not have sent them out so early but we did not do STD's and we have alot of family out of towners so I really did want to give them some notice. Too late now  
I think I will just bring them to work as I'm inviting everyone that I work with on nights tomorrow night, since I wasn't able to get an address for a few of them. I wan't to get them out ASAP for them as well since we work rotating shifts and if they wanted to come and were working now would be the time to ask for it off if there were to be a hope in hell of getting it. They are all stamped and named though so its not like I'll look like a cheap-ass for saving stamps lol Is that in poor taste or anything though? Personally I think I would be pleased to be personally invited. Thoughts?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I should not have sent them out so early but we did not do STD's and we have alot of family out of towners so I really did want to give them some notice. Too late now :(  I think I will just bring them to work as I'm inviting everyone that I work with on nights tomorrow night, since I wasn't able to get an address for a few of them. I wan't to get them out ASAP for them as well since we work rotating shifts and if they wanted to come and were working now would be the time to ask for it off if there were to be a hope in hell of getting it. They are all stamped and named though so its not like I'll look like a cheap-ass for saving stamps lol Is that in poor taste or anything though? Personally I think I would be pleased to be personally invited. Thoughts?
Posted by mrsjustinm2b[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Some people like hand delivered, some are offended by it.  I would just mail them since you already have the stamps on them.  Besides, some people might stick it in their desk and forget about it.  </div><div>
</div><div>As for the addresses you don't have, can you email them through work, or just ask them for their addresses?  If not then I would just hand deliver those few that you don't have addresses for.

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Ghoti

Yes it looks bad. Unfortunately I'm in the same spot, LOL, I sent out most of the invites, and was waiting on addresses and SO's names for a few others, figured we'd get them and mail the rest out the next day but it took a week. Whoops! The couple that have noticed asked, and we explained that they haven't answered us about their address and they went "oh yeah!". There are actually 4 more we have to send still, but they are Fi's buddies so it's more of a formality than anything. There isn't really anything you can do about it, except get your invites out ASAP and catch the address stragglers when they come in!