Apparently no one in my family knows what etiquette is

qwerty777

I just received a STD for my cousin's "wedding" next August. It says "Sally and Jim are getting married!" It fails to mention they got married last February. They weren't very secretive about it, so it's not like they're lying to everyone. But it still irritates the crap out of me that they are calling it a wedding and pretending they aren't already married.
 
In the last year, I've also had two cousins have shotgun weddings where no one was invited to the ceremony. For one, we weren't invited to the reception, and they claimed they would have a bigger reception for the whole family, but so far that hasn't happened.

Beachy730

I am so beyond annoyed at this point with people calling it their 2nd wedding.  I've been having this debate on the military brides board and it drives me nuts how many people think its okay to call it a 2nd wedding.  Call it a vow renewal, and I'll back off, but you can not get married to the same person twice, unless you get divorced in between. 

NatandIsaac

There was an episode of the Simpsons where Homer feels bad that they had a crappy wedding, so he divorces Marge, because he thinks vow renewals are lame.

DramaGeek

The first one would irritate me.  No, you aren't GETTING married, because you already ARE married!  Urgh.  Call it a reception, make it a vow renewal if you want, but you are not getting married unless you divorce somewhere in between.

The others wouldn't bother me at all.  No on is obligated to have a reception or to invite people to a ceremony.  Now, I would be annoyed if they had an A list and a B list and only the A list got to go to the ceremony - assuming of course the A list was bigger then the 10 or 15 immediate family members.  However, if you're not actually going to have a reception then say that.  No need to keep saying you are and then not do it!

kathrynhabibti

The first one would piss me right off. But the second one.... sorry, but you don't get to complain about that. Nobody owes an invite to a reception unless they've been invited to a ceremony.