bride & groom toast ONLY

bajanbarbs

hi there, im in need of some advice.

im getting married in August and im on a tight budget. is it ok if i just have a toast for myself and the groom as opposed to providing wine for the guests??? its an early morning wedding and light refreshments will be served. its pretty much non-traditional in that i dont think ill be having a first dance or speeches. are these things even necessary? are they taboo to omit?

eagerly awaiting your reponses.


Shanna

ohwhynot

I don't think it's appropriate to provide anything for yourselves that you don't provide to your guests.  Why can't you toast with orange juice just like everybody else?  You and your groom can split a bottle of champagne after the reception, when you're alone with each other.

Moneypenny424

I think it is fine to omit the dances and speeches...but I don't like the idea of only you and your FI getting wine to toast with.  How many people will be there?  Since it's morning, I think it is fine not to have alcohol, but I'd offer a glass of wine for the toast--and you should be able to find a good, cheap wine to use (I mean, go with 3 Buck Chuck from Trader Joe's or something) for the toasting.

And hello, fellow Bajan . 

georgia_bride09

Since it's early morning, I'd just forgo all alcohol and toast with what the guests have. Like OWN said, you can always toast with champagne together once you're alone. A nonalcoholic toast is still a toast.

nda_roxybabe

Since its early how about serving everyone a mimosa, bellini or just a glass of champagne? That would be cheap.
That or serve no alcohol, not even for you two.

bajanbarbs

thank you for your replies, toasting with whatever the guest are drinking doesnt sound like a bad idea, i actually thought of that as well but ive never known of persons toasting with juice/ soda at a wedding. i want to go the non-alcoholic route since its a morning wedding and most of my guest dont drink alcohol, but the hotel im having the reception at is very rigid and the guy has told me that i cant bring my own wine. i think hes being very unreasonable, plus that is no hard and fast rule hes probably just being difficult with me.

colsta

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bride-groom-toast-only?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:149241da-9a5b-4c2c-9623-ace6dd6da7bcPost:9dd2cfd5-e143-4f9a-be38-de0199f51319">Re: bride & groom toast ONLY</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it is fine to omit the dances and speeches...but I don't like the idea of only you and your FI getting wine to toast with.  How many people will be there?  Since it's morning, I think it is fine not to have alcohol, but I'd offer a glass of wine for the toast--and you should be able to find a good, cheap wine to use <strong>(I mean, go with 3 Buck Chuck from Trader Joe's or something)</strong> for the toasting. And hello, fellow Bajan :). 
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

Remember when it was just 2 Buck Chuck. Stupid inflation.

Moneypenny424

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bride-groom-toast-only?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:149241da-9a5b-4c2c-9623-ace6dd6da7bcPost:d1c074da-3eee-43a5-b2db-3fffa64a03be">Re: bride & groom toast ONLY</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bride & groom toast ONLY : Remember when it was just 2 Buck Chuck. Stupid inflation.
Posted by colsta[/QUOTE]

I know!  I typed it as 2 Buck Chuck and had to correct it.  It doesn't sound as cool anymore :).

Bajan, since you can't bring alcohol, I agree with everyone else--just have guests toast with whatever nonalcoholic drink they're drinking and it will be fine.

Kristin&eric

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bride-groom-toast-only?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:149241da-9a5b-4c2c-9623-ace6dd6da7bcPost:627a22cb-478f-493b-9cb2-40fd4f24f4db">Re: bride & groom toast ONLY</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it's appropriate to provide anything for yourselves that you don't provide to your guests.  Why can't you toast with orange juice just like everybody else?  You and your groom can split a bottle of champagne after the reception, when you're alone with each other.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. I havent been to a wedding in a long time that did a champagne toast, usually its whatever you had in your hand

bajanbarbs

thanks fellow bajan. :-) theres always a solution to wedding woes. i will omit the dancing and the speeches for sure. if the guy changes his mind and allows me to bring the non-alcoholic wine  and him just charge me a corkage fee that would be great otherwise ill have the guest toast with whatever they are drinking.

mica178

It's still 2 Buck Chuck out here!

If your guests aren't big drinkers, you could ask the facility to make a limited amount of alcohol available, like PP said, bellinis or mimosas made with Spanish Cava rather than French Champagne.  It might not be too expensive, and if you can swing a consumption bar and predict low consumption, the few who want to toast with alcohol will have that option.