Splitting siblings?

ladybug480

I know there's always a lot of talk about whether or not to invite kids, but my issue is a bit more complex.  We decided early on to not invite kids; we have no neices or nephews, and all my cousins were excited about the idea of hiring a babysitter for a fun night out.  However, my FI has an aunt with 7 children.  3 of these cousins are over 18, and the rest are 7-15 years old.  Would it be terrible to invite just the 18+ kids? Here's the extra weirdness-the 3 younger kids are adopted.  I would be horrified if they assumed that we didn't invite those three because of that!!  Thoughts?

lyndausvi

Are these 3 kids the only cousins not invited?

If they are then I would invite them because all the other cousins are invited and I'm a fan of catergory cut offs not age.

If there are other cousins similar age and also not invited then I think you are okay.

rebarobert2012

I agree that even if the 18+ still live at home, they should receive their own invitation.  That is, if you want to invite them.

ladybug480

I will send individual invites to each person, but I'm concerned that the parents will think I'm rude for leaving out the younger children. I guess I'm afraid that they won't see that I'm basing things on age. Plus it'll probably be inconvenient for both the parents to come (wedding is over 3 hours from their house) since we are inviting all the potential babysitters in the family. 

Kate61487

Like PP asked - are the 4 under-18'ers the ONLY cousins under 18?  (i.e. all other children are cousins' kids, not 1st cousins?)  If they're the only 1st cousins excluded I'd invite them.  If they're not the only 1st cousins excluded I think you're fine.  You can always have your mom/dad mention how you're not having any children so they don't take it personally