Alright. Last night my FI & I were talking guest list. We figured maybe like 60 or 70 people. Which, from my family, most people that will be invited (if they are invited, not sure yet) won't come. I know this because no on one my mom's side came to my sister's wedding a few years ago & only a hand full came from my dad's side.
So, on to the problem of a few of his choice of guests. Now, keep in mind, I am willing to be civil to these people if invited. Just not sure they should be.
He is wanting to invite his brother, youngest sister & cousin. Now many probably think 'so what?'. Well after what they've done to us, me & our home I do not want them at the wedding. They all have lived with us at some point. They all have brought drugs into our home, refused to either help around the house, pay the right amount each month or pay anything at all. I have gotten into fights with all three and had to be on anti-depression & anti-anxiety meds b/c of the sister. None of them were respectful, called me every name in the book & made threats. After kicking the brother out he broke into our house. The sister, even though I cannot prove it but these things only happen when she's in town, has vandalized both my vehicles. They all have records, committed crimes in our house & else where while living with us. And the brother is currently wanted by police & hiding in another county.
Oddly enough, out of the three I would prefer to have the brother there b/c he's shown that he can be civil & nice towards me.
Then there are a few "budies" my FI wants to invite. These people he either 1) hasn't seen in years or 2) wants to invite b/c we went to his wedding or 3) refuses to hang out with my FI or have anything to do with him unless they want something (which by the way the cousin mentioned above is pretty much the same way). Oh and there's a couple people he wants to invite from work.
Should I just let this slide & invite the people to make him happy? So it would make it about 8 people in this 'unsure' group he wants to invite. That's quite a bit of food & drinks for people that probably shouldn't be at our wedding. I don't know what to do. He knows I do not agree with most of the people mentioned but I would hate to get into another argument about these people (we use to argue a lot about his select family members while they lived with us). He wants them at the wedding. I thought maybe telling him to sit down with those I've had problems with & tell them that if they are to attend then they need to be respectful & civil, etc and if they're not then they will be told to leave. Help.
