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Sasanderson13

Should you send invitations to a destination wedding to guests that are not invited?  my fiances mother seems to think i should send to some of her friends, even though they are not invited.  Just for a formalitypurpose.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Should you send invitations to a destination wedding to guests that are not invited?  my fiances mother seems to think i should send to some of her friends, even though they are not invited.  Just for a formalitypurpose.
Posted by Sasanderson13[/QUOTE]
If you send them an invitation, they are invited.
If you are sending them just as a formality and hoping they don't come... be warned! They might come.
If your FMIL is paying, then you might be screwed. But if you and Fi are paying Just Say No.

Sasanderson13

Thank you!!

AddieCake

She IS nuts. INVITations are for INVITing people to things.

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[QUOTE]Should you send invitations to a destination wedding to guests that are not invited?  my fiances mother seems to think i should send to some of her friends, even though they are not invited.  Just for a formalitypurpose.
Posted by Sasanderson13[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with PP, mention the wedding announcement option to her.</div>

allychase

I just want to hear your FMIL reasoning on how sending someone an invitation doesn't mean you are inviting them. What the what?

Loopyseven

No.

Kristin789

Your FMIL wants to make her friends score you some great gifts.  That's really not what a wedding is about.  I suggest that you and FI schedule a meeting with FMIL and MOB and your officiant to get everyone re-focused on the spiritual foundation of this event.

MayberryAfterMidnight

Maybe your FMIL is confusing invites with a wedding announcement? Also, she probably views sending them invitations as a "formality" because it's a destination wedding and chances are, they probably won't come. Still, as TK says TIME AND TIME AGAIN, don't ever send invitations to people you don't want or expect to come. Sometimes people will surprise you and travel halfway around the world for a casual aquaintance.