Cousin separated from his wife

KaylaMF0211

My cousin is separated from his wife and has been for a couple months. They live in separate cities. I have only been around his wife a few times so I don’t know her very well. I am curious if it is acceptable to send him an invitation (include her on it) and leave it up to him of whether or not he extends the invite to her or if a separate invite needs to be sent to her?

princess pop

I'd say seperate, as they are living apart.

s-aries8990

If they divorced and got remarried, would you invite his wife and her new husband? If you wouldn't invite his wife by herself then send the invite to his place of residence.

Do they consider themselves still married? Are they still a "social unit"? Or does he have a new girlfriend?  This is where who's on the invitation gets tricky and hopefully some other E regs can help out.

KaylaMF0211

Syndaries - If they were divorced, I would  not invite her at all since that has been how we have addressed other situations that have come up and also I have seen her maybe a handful of times and I don't really know her at all. As far as if they are dating other people....I am not sure. She has gone back to her maiden name on social media websites if that helps and I know he wants a divorce...why they haven't started the proceedings...I am unsure.  Hope this additional information helps.

mlg78

In Response to Re:Cousin separated from his wife:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cousin separated from his wife:Syndaries If they were divorced, I wouldnbsp; not invite her at all since that has been how we have addressed other situations that have come up and also I have seen her maybe a handful of times and I don't really know her at all. As far as if they are dating other people....I am not sure. She has gone back to her maiden name on social media websites if that helps and I know he wants a divorce...why they haven't started the proceedings...I am unsure.nbsp; Hope this additional information helps.Posted by KaylaMF0211Then just send the invite to him. Or him and a guest. Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

This is what I would do.

Jen4948

If they're separated, I would just invite him, with or without a guest.

Kate61487

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousin-separated-from-his-wife?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:16394305-5769-46e8-b8dc-d9c09d3b287cPost:8821ede6-86f9-489a-9471-58df5d5f4a17">Re: Cousin separated from his wife</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cousin separated from his wife : Then just send the invite to him. Or him and a guest.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

I third this.

cbrown828

It's likely that they have started the proceedings if she has gone back to her maiden name, but depending on various factors finalizing a divorce can take years in some cases. My parents' took 18 months. I agree with PPs who advised to address it to him, with or without guest.

s-aries8990

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousin-separated-from-his-wife?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:16394305-5769-46e8-b8dc-d9c09d3b287cPost:8821ede6-86f9-489a-9471-58df5d5f4a17">Re: Cousin separated from his wife</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cousin separated from his wife : Then just send the invite to him. Or him and a guest.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

I fourth this (is that possible?) lol

I didn't know if they were just living apart to try and get through a rough patch in the relationship (my boyfriend's parents just did that, considered themselves married the whole time, she came for Christmas and went back to her place after, they would go on dates, etc, and now are back to living together again and seem happier than before), or were legitimately ending the marriage. The extra info definitely helped!