I am having a tiny wedding, 30 people. Etiquette says to only invite guest that are attending your wedding to your bridal shower, but I have family that want/say I need a bridal shower. Most of the guest to the wedding are aunt's & uncle's and the bridal shower would be cousin's. I don't know what to do. What do I say at the shower to let them know that they aren't invited to the wedding without hurting anyone's feelings?? Also, my wedding is 3-5 hours away from where most of those people live, which is a big reason the wedding is tiny. It is in a big tourist town that is pricey.