So first, here's some background. My fiance and I got engaged last September, and when I told my cousin about it she said "I better be in the wedding!" But in a demanding kind of way, not excited kind of way. She's a bit of a drama queen so to avoid drama from her not being in it, I said yes (My mistake I know). Anyways, her 9 year old daughter is my Goddaughter and I had her every day until she was 5 when I moved away, now I take her one weekend a month. We're very close and she means a lot to me, so she is my Jr. Bridesmaid.
Last November my cousin began dating a guy and at Christmas they got engaged. They set their date 2 weeks after our wedding, and a couple of people (one being my mom) told her they would not be able to fly back for her wedding because they had already planned to come to mine and it was too close together. My cousin started texting me flipping out about how she's 31 and she's supposed to get married first and I need to change my wedding date and how selfish I was being by wanting my mom to come back for my bridal shower and my wedding so that she couldn't go to my cousin's wedding. By this time, we had deposits down and Save the Dates ready to be sent, we weren't changing our date...
I said some choice words that I shouldn't have said in the heat of the moment, which I apologized for that same evening. However, my cousin dropped out and the only way my Goddaughter can still be in the wedding is by me driving 2 hours to do the things that need done with her and paying for all of the things she will need for the wedding. But I would rather do all of this than not have her in our wedding because she means a lot to me, so I am doing it all without complaint. But now that our RSVP day is coming up, my cousin told me she wasn't going to RSVP because it depended on how she felt that day on if she'd come or not. Her and her fiance are now broken up, which probably makes it worse I don't know.
I suppose I will just order an extra meal and if she doesn't show, oh well. But I am just getting frustrated with her attitude towards me. This argument was 7 months ago, it was a stupid argument, I apologized for the stupid stuff I said to her and she still won't talk to me. I have to go through my aunt just to set up times to see my Goddaughter now. I don't like drama but am wondering if I should tell her if she doesn't RSVP yes, then unfortunately there won't be a meal for her? I think it would be easier to just order and extra meal... What would you ladies do?
Sorry for the super lengthy post...
