Confessions... I think we should stick with tradition

tlv204

Since it's Thursday, what are your deep dark secrets today?

Mine: As much as we need the money, I'm kind of happy that I haven't been called to sub in a week and a half. I have actually gotten a lot done, and now I'm sick, so instead of feeling bad about it (even though there's nothing I can do to force teachers to be gone), I'm enjoying my mini vacation.

ps- I just asked H what my confession should be since mine is kind of lame, and he said "That you love anal sex.  And that you now hate your husband."

rhodesign

mine is the same as last week, only now I'm really not happy. I do NOT want to work 4 nights a week. That screws with EVERYTHING, but J is insisting on it because we need the money. It sucks ass and I'm pissed and I don't want to do it but whatever. I know, other people work 5 days a week, blah blah but what he doesn't get is that this is not a regular shift. I'm not home until after midnight. It screws with everything and my evenings are not free like everyone elses. It gets in the way of doing shows through the week too when those come up. grrr...

aMrsin09

H is getting all excited and planning our drive from Perth to QLD (think Los Angeles to Maine) in June.  He keeps showing me all the natural wonders that we'll be seeing along the way.

My confession?  All I'm seeing is "big brown rock, big  red rock, tall grey rock, brown rocks with other rocks stacked on top."  This is going to be a long drive and I am not looking forward to it.

In all honesty though, I have no desire to ever go to the Grand Canyon becuase to me it's just a big brown hole.  so "natural wonders" may be lost on me in general.

danieliza1127

I got paid yesterday and started working on our budget for the next two weeks, and realized that in just two weeks I spent $700.  Granted $200 of it was groceries, but $700 in TWO WEEKS?  I was just sick over it.  Thank God we've got it like that, but it's just ridiculous.  I put myself on a strict budget for the next two weeks just to know that I can do it.

laurenclaire1386

My confession is that the "who paid for your wedding" thread made me feel really bratty. My parents volunteered the money, I definitely didn't ask. I have a weird money complex and the fact that my parents volunteered to pay for a completely unnecessary party makes me feel simultaneously really guilty and really lucky.

amalama

Me and BF got in a big fight the other day, and I think he thinks it's over, but it's not. I'm really sad, and I just don't even know how to continue talking about it with him. And I feel like I have no one else I can talk to about it either because most of my friends will just tell me I'm being silly.

sarah0725

I confess that I am really bad at managing money, and I have been losing a lot of sleep over it lately.

I also confess that I am eating FI out of house and home. I'm not so happy about that either.

bbyckes

I confess that I've been just giddy about wedding planning lately. 

I really had to catch myself when I heard the word, "perfect" coming out of my mouth.  As in, "I want it to be perfect!!11!!!"  I felt like an idiot.  I don't want it to be perfect - I want it to be meaningful (and pretty) :P

tlv204

laurenclaire- I feel the same way. However I feel that way anytime I use trust fund money to buy anything. It's like a built in guilt thing that will probably  never go away.  I am proud to say however that I did not use a dime of trust money to pay the downpayment for our house. Or anything for the house.

lovethebeach- I've been having dress remorse for months, and I'm already married. Sometimes I think I picked the least flattering dress ever.  Oh well. Too late now.

FutureMrsTR

I confess that we're going a little over budget on the wedding planning, but we looked at my budget spreadsheet and we're not really willing to cut anything.  So we're just going with it.

Also, I have eaten almost a whole movie-theatre sized box of Raisinets today and the only healthy things I've had were eggs for breakfast and a tiny clementine.

ohwhynot

Well . . . I confess that I fear my fiance and my daughter will never be close. 

I also confess that Pumpkinpumpkin's "Who would want to get married with your track record!" hurt my feelings. 

Kati0105

I confess that I was upset that my fiance went to a strip club for his bachelor party, even though it's never bothered me when he's gone before.  I feel so lame for being upset, but I've been really insecure about my body lately and the idea of him looking at naked girls with perfect bodies made me feel that much worse about myself.

danieliza1127

I also confess that Pumpkinpumpkin's "Who would want to get married with your track record!" hurt my feelings.

I was honestly concerned about that because I like you.  Please know that Pumpkin is known around here for how judgmental she can be.  She sees everything in black and white and just pretty much is always the one you can expect something negative or judgmental from.  And I say that honestly because I really like her too, you just have to know how she is and how to take it.  Don't take what she says personally.

ohwhynot

Thank you, Daneliza - that was very kind.  It's silly that it even bothered me, but it did.  Oh, and kati - my fi went to a strip club a few times like, 25 years ago, and it bothers me.  It's completely irrational - I know that, but it still bugs whenever I think about it.  I can guarantee you that you're spending a LOT more time thinking about it than he is. 

Kati0105

I can guarantee you that you're spending a LOT more time thinking about it than he is.

Yes, this is definitely true.  He was absolutely shocked when I told him it bothered me.  I need to just let it go and appreciate that he loves me for who I am.

kikibaby

My confession is that I just set up my first appointment with a psychiatrist and I'm both excited and really scared.  I hate the idea of taking medicine that may change my personality.  I'm not perfect at all, but I'm me and I'm scared I won't be me anymore

beatlesgirl25

Poli, that would drive me nuts too, and make me want to intervene on her clients' behalf. Honestly, I think all programs have at least one person like that... the best you can hope is that they gain some insight and make changes quickly or that they get weeded out of the program.

We have one of those too (I'm nervous typing this too, but I don't think she's ever been on here), only she's in another category of inappropriate in that she has a lot of issues with boundaries, oversharing, and men. She would come to class from her internship and be dressed like a school girl with crazy cleavage, and all her case presentations were focused on her clients' sexual transference toward her. She also had an obvious active eating disorder and kept trying to apply to ED clinics as a therapist. A group of us ended up intervening to the deans on her behalf so she could get help.

georgia_bride09

That's why I AW'd my gold ribbon here instead of in its own thread; it's not quite as fantastical as a blue ball.

Poli, why isn't she being penalized for not bringing her tapes in? Clearly something shady is going on.

mandapanda78

My sister is a therapist and she is one of the most tactless people I know. She is also excellent at psychological manipulation, which is why I don't bother confronting her about anything. What's the point when she can "prove" why whatever unfriendly/tactless/rude thing she did was your own fault anyway?

Whew, I needed to get that off my chest.

polichik

Georgia, my supervisor is more free-flowing with requirements, and she's definitely attuned to the fact that this girl is having a tough time. I know she's going to address it, but I wish she (supervisor) would call her (student) out when it happens.

georgia_bride09

I'd definitely be mad about that too, since she is not following the rules at all. I hate people who think rules don't apply to them.

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-think-should-stick-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1705e6d3-b305-40ff-a7b7-90bba1049a42Post:04ac9dfb-9210-4c71-a037-143b14dddefb">Re: Confessions... I think we should stick with tradition</a>:
[QUOTE]That's why I AW'd my gold ribbon here instead of in its own thread; it's not quite as fantastical as a blue ball. Poli, why isn't she being penalized for not bringing her tapes in? Clearly something shady is going on.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Boooo. I totally want to AW mine when the time comes :)

Night_Sprite

I think you can AW all you want, M&M.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-think-should-stick-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1705e6d3-b305-40ff-a7b7-90bba1049a42Post:51527370-fc62-401e-83da-2000176dd105">Re: Confessions... I think we should stick with tradition</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd definitely be mad about that too, since she is not following the rules at all. I hate people who think rules don't apply to them.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

One of my biggest pet peeves. Some guy on the airplane behind me over Christmas turned off his iPhone and his girlfriend said, "Why'd you do that?" And he said, "Um, the flight attendent said so." She said, "Whatever. Since when do you listen to the rules?" Dumbass.

beatlesgirl25

Meaghan, AW all you want. I'm going to.

Mery, that kind of ignoring the rules drives me batty. When it puts the lives of others in danger, it (ironically) makes me want to hurt the person who is willfully doing it. It's like when people don't pull over for ambulances. Of course no one wants to pull over, but I always think it might be racing to help someone I know and love. You just never know.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I just think it's not same rando's place to judge the rules. Okay, you might not see the point in it, but I'm sure it is there for a reason. I think "civil disobedience" has been taken to the extreme. If a law is unfair, go about changing it. If you don't like being told to do something minor because it annoys you, that's your own problem.

I know a lot of people debate whether or not a call phone can actually bring down a plane, but I'm not willing to find out.

I dealt with this a lot in retail and food service. "What do you mean you can't serve me without a shirt?!" "Why can't I bring my dog into the restaurant? What should I do with him?!" I hate people sometimes.

missy68

It was pretty bad - quarter to a half inch of ice everywhere. Not as many power outages as I expected.

The snow has a nice "glass" coating on it now. The dog slid down a drift yesterday. I laughed. He wasn't amused.

Apparently though, cars are sliding (from their parked positions) in one of our parking lots that is on a slant). Nice, huh?

thesuninherhead

Honestly, Poli and Beatles, a lot of the people who enter psych undergrad have serious psychological problems. Not all of them, obviously, but a lot. Most of them don't make it on beyond 3rd year into honours year... but yeah. There were some seriously messed up people in our undergrad study (and hey, confession that some of you probably I already know, I was one of them. I wasn't nearly as bad as the people you mention, though, and it wasn't as though I was anywhere near being a psychologist at that stage. I do, however, know one girl who was completely histrionic P/D who is now a practicing psych, and I don't know how she could possibly be any good when she is so self-focused). 

 

Kiki, why will you be taking meds? If you don't mind me asking.

Bubbalub

I confess that I am wedding planning crazy now that we have booked the venue. It's all I can talk about. I kinda hate myself for it and yet I can't stop myself. Will it calm down in a couple weeks? Please tell me I'll calm down and stop being That Girl who only talks about weddings. Ugh.

Kiki, hugs to you. The first visit to a psych can be scary and/or intimidating but they really do want to help you. Meds don't (well, shouldn't) drastically change you, they just make you the person you really are inside without all the depression or anxiety getting in the way. I feel like a much better version of myself when I'm on my meds (which I will probably never go off again, at this point) because I feel like people really see ME instead of the anxiety I would always project outwardly before. Feel free to PM if you want or need. I've been dealing with this for 10 years now, as I'm sure many others have.

beatlesgirl25

Sun, I agree. I think that it's a strength to be able to overcome personal struggles and help others, but I also agree that a common draw to the field seems to be for people to figure themselves out. It's a slippery slope because at some point it gets dangerous for unwell people to be providing care for others. Kudos to you on your journey, and I know too well what it means to grow into a place of competence by taking care of oneself.

That said, kiki I'm sorry this thread went into the direction of "how many incompetent/unsafe MH providers can we talk about." I wish you good luck at your appointment, and just know that ultimately you have the final say in what you take or don't take. If you don't feel comfortable that your questions were answered or things weren't explained to your satisfaction, keep at it until you get what you need. Hopefully your psychiatrist will also inform you of other supplementary services, not just medication.