Woman who didn't take his name

kitty02kat

My god mother did not take her husband's name when she got married... do I address them:

Mr. _________ _________ and Ms. _________ _________
or just go with Mr. and Mrs. ______________(his name)? 

kalpi108

Not contributing because I actually know but rather asking out of curiosity. If the woman was her godmother and was the one important in her life before she married the husband (I'm guessing this from the OP saying "my godmother didn't take her husband's last name" rather than referring to him as godfather or something), then would the godmother's name go first? Or does her relationship with the woman not matter when deciding the order of the names? And isn't it usually ladies first anyway when you write out two separate names on the same invitation?

ILoveToRobot

I thought Mrs. only applies if she takes the name otherwise it's supposed to be Ms.??? I'm pretty sure I read that on here before.

ILoveToRobot

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[QUOTE]Not contributing because I actually know but rather asking out of curiosity. If the woman was her godmother and was the one important in her life before she married the husband (I'm guessing this from the OP saying "my godmother didn't take her husband's last name" rather than referring to him as godfather or something), then would the godmother's name go first? Or does her relationship with the woman not matter when deciding the order of the names? And isn't it usually ladies first anyway when you write out two separate names on the same invitation?
Posted by kalpi108[/QUOTE]

I don't think relationship has anything to do with the order but hey I could be wrong. And I would've thought to put the husbands name first.... but again I could be wrong.

Meg1036

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[QUOTE]My god mother did not take her husband's name when she got married... do I address them: Mr. _________ _________ and Ms. _________ _________ or just go with Mr. and Mrs. ______________(his name)? 
Posted by kitty02kat[/QUOTE]

Ladies first.

Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe.

Definitely not Mr and Mrs. HisLast, because there is no Mrs. HisLast.

tenofcups4me

Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith.

Woman first, Ms. not Mrs., same line connected with an "and"

dumdumfroggie

Mr. Jack Smith and Mrs. Jill Rogers

MattsPenguin

Putting them on the same line with the "and" between them implies that they are married.

Dum Dum ain't so dumb.

ekm62411

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[QUOTE]Not contributing because I actually know but rather asking out of curiosity. If the woman was her godmother and was the one important in her life before she married the husband (I'm guessing this from the OP saying "my godmother didn't take her husband's last name" rather than referring to him as godfather or something), then would the godmother's name go first? Or does her relationship with the woman not matter when deciding the order of the names? And isn't it usually ladies first anyway when you write out two separate names on the same invitation?
Posted by kalpi108[/QUOTE]
I think you're right about ladies first.

RaptorSLH

Address a woman by the name she has chosen.  To knowingly do otherwise is presumptuous and rude.

cebrady89

Mrs. Sally Smith and Mr. John Doe.

Her name should go first. The woman's name always appears first, it doesn't have to do with the relationship, that's just how it is.

kitty02kat

Thanks all!