destination wedding

daria2876

hey everyone! i'm getting married in Oct in las vegas. we are only asking a few people to come out with us. when we return home we are having a reception. my question is how do we send invites? do we just send out reception invites? i know i have read many place that it is common courtesy to send invites to eveyone for both but as i said we really only want a few people there.(in vegas that is) 

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]hey everyone! i'm getting married in Oct in las vegas. we are only asking a few people to come out with us. when we return home we are having a reception. my question is how do we send invites? do we just send out reception invites? i know i have read many place that it is common courtesy to send invites to eveyone for both but as i said we really only want a few people there.(in vegas that is) 
Posted by daria2876[/QUOTE]

<div>You can throw a kick ass after party, however, it's not a reception. The reception is the dinner you host for your Vegas people. Throw an awesome party with great dinner and dancing, but no big white dress, spotlight dances or cake cutting. </div>

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]In Response to destination wedding : You can throw a kick ass after party, however, it's not a reception. The reception is the dinner you host for your Vegas people. Throw an awesome party with great dinner and dancing, but no big white dress, spotlight dances or cake cutting. 
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

ditto this

Simply Fated

I agree with misssunshine. The reception is what will happen after your ceremony with those people you invited to your ceremony.

daria2876

yes i was planning on feeding my guest in vegas and  I do know a few  ppl that went off to a destination and came back and had a real wedding reception.  So what you guys are saying that the invites for the party should be just party invites? do i say anything on there about celebrating our marriage?

AdeleDazeem

Hi Daria... we did something similar to you.  Destination wedding in Bermuda for 12 people followed by an AHR for 125 people.  We did separate invitations for each event.  The AHR invitiations said "Please join us to celebrate our recent marriage" and the insert card clearly stated "The couple married privately May 5th, 2011 in Southhampton, Bermuda." 

You can see our invitations to both in my married bio (link in siggy).

Please be aware that this kind of situation is okay etiquette-wise as long as only 10-15% of your AHR list is invited to the wedding.  12 out of 125 was ~ 10%.  If you are inviting more like 50 to Vegas and 100 to your AHR (50%), then this is a really bad plan.

Good luck!

misssunshine17

Listen to Joy and check out her bio. She did your plan really well.

No, it's not another wedidng reception. You're no longer a bride, you're a wife- own it! And just because others you have seen have done the whole second reception thing doesn't mean it's proper.

daria2876

hey joy! thank you! your site was very informative. I seen you still had a wedding cake. did you still have your first dance or anything else that was similar to a Ahr? i am also looking to have about 6-10 people to join me in vegas.

daria2876

I wasnt going to wear a wedding dress at my party but i really wanted some good pictures taken in it from a professional photographer with my father and my in-laws and all the family that wont be coming. As far as a cake i was actually just going to do cupcakes. I will have a nice casual dress for the party though. Only gonna wear dress for the first hour.