Invitation Etiquette Question

HisBelovedOne

I have an adult uncle who lives with his parents and a college-age cousin who lives with hers. Do these two get their own invitations because they're adults, or do I put all the members in the household on one invitation?

pandasquishy

For guests like that, we gave them their own invitation.  I say if they're over 18, they get their own.

ootmother2

Basicly everyone over age 18 gets their own invite.

We didn't do this with my nephews (3) and my niece as they were all away a school and lack the manners to do it on their own.  We included them on the parent's invitations

squirrly

If they're over 18 they should get their own. 

Cardinal sin - including an adult on his/her parents invite whom the adult hasn't lived with for 10 years, because you want a present but are too lazy to find out said adult's address and cough up a stamp.  Do NOT do this.

cukimerrydoll

If they are over 18, they are supposed to get their own, but for college students, it would be perfectly fine to send just one.

I graduated last May, and I don't think I ever got my own invite for weddings on my side of the family the entire time I was in college.  Made it awkward for my parents for one or two weddings (Katie has been with [BF at the time] for a while, can she bring him?). 

But if the number of guests is clear, or you know the cousin well enough (or ask if she would bring a date), there shouldn't be a problem. 

I've never gotten my own, actually - they have all either been addressed to my parents and family or to me and my FH, come to think of it.

banana468

Send a separate invitation to the adults whenever possible.

Even with Christmas cards, DH's cousins have approached me and said, "THANK YOU for sending me my own!"

Kyle1

I realize rules of etiquette regarding wedding invitations but this one stiinks. Our son is getting married. Our name was left off invitation because brides family is paying. We are into this for $6,000 so far and will be hosts of many out of state guests. Family and friends have asked us if we are against this wedding since our names were not included. Looks like we are not supportive of this marriage and won't be attending. I feel this is disrespectful to exclude in-laws on invitation and is hurtful. I've helped the bride with whatever she asked, making all jewelry, hand painted an isle runner, etc.  We were also asked to have a reception in grooms hometown for those who can't make it to wedding. Do I have the right to feel so crushed?  Kyle1

banana468

Kyle1, I'd really create a new post for that question.

To answer it though - I think you need to just understand that the invitation was worded in the very old-school traditional way.  You do have a right to feel crushed but as  an adult, you have full control of your behavior.

That means that unless you really want to make waves about this (and the invitations have been sent already), be the bigger person here and let it roll off your back as this is for your son.

And when the time comes for the reception in your hometown, you will be the hosts of that event and your names can go on that invitation.