Stock the Bar Shower Etiquitte

kourtnayking · January 2010

Hi: My bride asked me to throw a "stock the bar" shower for her, but insted of it being her and the groom's personal bar that'll be stocked, she'd like it to be the reception alcohol since they can 'brown bag" it.

I agreed before I thought about it...but then I thought about it. How on earth do you ask quests to bring alcohol that'll be used at the wedding? No one seemed concerned, so I just assumed that this was typical...until I thought about the wording for the invitations, then I started to wonder. Has anyone done this before? Am I freaking out for no reason?

Help!!

kikibaby · January 2010

Just when you think you've heard it all...

I have never heard of this and it sounds super ridiculous. "Shower will be on Saturday, April 3rd at 3 pm. Please wear your finest attire and bring a bottle of booze for you to drink at our wedding reception."

ootmother2 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stock-bar-shower-etiquitte?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1933d7a5-03cc-4c48-927f-51b87f58c9faPost:c31d2d59-6a8e-42bc-99c8-6ff103d043dd">Stock the Bar Shower Etiquitte</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi: My bride asked me to throw a "stock the bar" shower for her, but insted of it being her and the groom's personal bar that'll be stocked, she'd like it to be the reception alcohol since they can 'brown bag" it. I agreed before I thought about it...but then I thought about it. How on earth do you ask quests to bring alcohol that'll be used at the wedding? No one seemed concerned, so I just assumed that this was typical...until I thought about the wording for the invitations, then I started to wonder. Has anyone done this before? Am I freaking out for no reason? Help!!
Posted by kourtnayking[/QUOTE]

Please be a troll!

Just in case your very first post on the knot is REAL, inform the bride that you will not do that because it's poor etiquette.

Their wedding = They stock the bar

MyNameIsNot · January 2010

I don't think there's a way to do this that isn't tacky. I find specifying that people should bring liquor as a gift problematic enough, but then having to tell the which liquor and turning around and serving it at the wedding? Ick!

My advice is to go back to the bride and tell her you thought about it and don't think this is appropriate.

Mryan209 · January 2010

I also have never heard of this for a shower. I don't think there is a classy way to word that because it's pretty tacky IMO. It's like asking guests to provide their own food.