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RSVP for "Guest"

Hi Ladies,
Two of my FI's friends RSVP'ed to the wedding and literally wrote their name and "guest" on the RSVP card. Both of them are the type of guy who date a lot, so I figured they would bring whoever they were dating at the time, but I expected to least have a name. I really don't know what I should put on the escort card? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA!

Re: RSVP for "Guest"

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    Call them and ask them for the name of there guest.
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    Just ask them for the name of their guest. If they don't know who they plan to bring, I would just put John Smith and Guest on one place card.
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    Have your fiance call them and ask for names.
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    If you're okay with them bringing a guest, then just call and ask for a name.  If they're not sure, then wait until you absolutely need to know the name to make place cards or escort card, then ask aagin.  
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    lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    edited December 2012

    I would ask them if they know who they are bringing.  If they don't know by the time you need to do the cards just put "John Smith and guest". 

    Since they are not in relationship it's not a faux pas to put "and guest".   I had to do this for both my BIL and SIL who brought random people to the wedding.  They decided on who to bring the week of the wedding.  Dude I had way too much other crap to worry about then if putting an actual name on an escort card.  

      Once you do your part of asking, it's on them to provide you with information.  I would side-eye any random guest of a guest being thinking poorly of seeing "and guest" on an escort card.







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    Thanks ladies - Im worried they wont have a name by the time we need to print the escort cards so good to know its ok to put "and guest" on the card.
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    Honestly with everything you're doing I would just put "Guest" on the escort card. If you're anything like me, I'm OCD and I would need to know the info but at the point of receiving the RSVPs in the mail & it says guest? Honey, its too late to worry at that point. It's just a minor deet.
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    Your wedding is in 18 days.  Surely, they know today who they are bringing.  Call or have FI call.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-for-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:196c6034-4dd7-4f73-a07c-d35393b02296Post:7f8f85d9-1eac-4195-8683-c322f72740f1">Re: RSVP for "Guest"</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your wedding is in 18 days.  Surely, they know today who they are bringing.  Call or have FI call.
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    One would think but I have been known to be a last-minute sally and do the half-hour prior date change-up. Stranger things have happened. I never understood why the b&g need to know the name of the guest. A guest is a guest- who cares if their name is Mike, Joe, Paul or Mark.
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