Rehersal dinner invites

dragossoul84

My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and its a bit expensive so we werent really planning to do a rehersal dinner. So just recently we found his parents want to throw that for which is really generous but now I dont know about invites for it do I get invites for it I know that they will not get them and the only reason I'm concerned is this is out of town for all of the guests. If I need to order invites I will need to order them now as we're getting married in about a month and half.  Or do we just tell ppl when and where it is?

Karen's MOH

Yup, you need to ask them. You can do actual paper invitations, but an email or phone call is fine also (I have seen both). I can't tell from your post if you already discussed the guest list with them but I think that would be the first thing.

For us, we didn't invite all OOT guests since that was more than half the people. It was just wedding party, readers (plus sig others) and immediate family. My MIL did send out invitations. 

dragossoul84

They asked us for the guest list its who ever we want and I'm not saying all guests will be there I am saying all of the guests are from another town so I feel like they should probably have some heads up. We are getting married 3 hours from where we live and his family is from about 6 hours from us and we have some guest coming all the from CA. We just did his brothers wedding which they paid for the rehersal dinner for and their weren't invites they are really informal ppl. If I ask them about invites they will feel that I'm asking them to buy them which I'm not I just want to make sure to do the right thing

Brandiewine11

Please note: punctuation is your friend.

Just ask how they want to handle it. You don't have to do expensive formal invites. Calling people, an online invite (if all the guests use the internet), or print at home invites are completely fine. I don't think I've ever recieved an invite for the RD...just a "show up to practice at xx time and place, dinner will be at xx." Everyone got there without a problem.

LoveMuffins

I just didn't worry about it at all.

My FILs are paying for it, and my FMIL mentioned to me the last time that we talked that she thinks she's going to print up the invites to the RD like they did for my FBIL's wedding. And I said, "Sounds good!" lol.

Since you're not hosting, you don't need to worry about it