Worst favors you've ever received?

theholograms

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[QUOTE]A piece of paper saying they donated to a charity I don't give a hoot about.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I just HAD to respond to this...</div><div>We are doing this for our wedding this summer.  We are making a donation to a charity in memory of a friend of mine who passed away from said charity disease a few years ago and I thought it was a lovely way to incorporate her into our wedding.</div><div>It means a lot to us to donate to this charity, and of course people are entitled to their opinions, but I think it is rude to say this type of wedding favor is awful. Much better than a tiny picture frame, little bottles of cheap wine that I never drink, or basically anything with the couples name that everyone always throws away.</div><div>
</div><div>Just had to respond!

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Meghannsix

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worst favors you've ever received? : I just HAD to respond to this... We are doing this for our wedding this summer.  We are making a donation to a charity in memory of a friend of mine who passed away from said charity disease a few years ago and I thought it was a lovely way to incorporate her into our wedding. It means a lot to us to donate to this charity, and of course people are entitled to their opinions, but I think it is rude to say this type of wedding favor is awful. Much better than a tiny picture frame, little bottles of cheap wine that I never drink, or basically anything with the couples name that everyone always throws away. Just had to respond!
Posted by 27Sunrise[/QUOTE]

I think it's going a bit far to say it's rude, it's just an opinion, that doesn't happen to be yours.

housewifehobbiest

I'm of the opinion that while donating to charity is a wonderful thing, it doesn't have a place in wedding favors.  Just skip the favors and donate, but the donation is a gift to the charity, not your guests.

saric83

A coaster with the couple's photo on it....I left that one on the table with my drink on it. : )

jmconley08

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[QUOTE]Jordan almonds.  Gross.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

I love Jordan Almonds!!

SparrowSong

Engraved shot glass with the couples names and wedding date.  I'm not really into doing shots at home, and if I was, I don't know why I'd want my shot glass to have someone else wedding date on it. Trashed it. 

xxstardust

A heavy-ass silver dolphin statuette that doubled as a bottle opener. It was engraved with "Diving into love! John and Jane Doe, (wedding date)." We gave it away as a white elephant gift.

LittleMissCutiePie

The favor itself was a cute idea; it was ground coffee in vintage glass soda bottles. However, they put the favors together really early, like several months before the wedding, and the coffee went stale. Blech!

wrdgirl

I am surprised to even see this.  I think weddings are an extremely subjective event.  People shouldn't be complaining about something that they weren't obligated to go in the first place.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worst favors you've ever received? : I just HAD to respond to this... We are doing this for our wedding this summer.  We are making a donation to a charity in memory of a friend of mine who passed away from said charity disease a few years ago and I thought it was a lovely way to incorporate her into our wedding. It means a lot to us to donate to this charity, and of course people are entitled to their opinions, but I think it is rude to say this type of wedding favor is awful. Much better than a tiny picture frame, little bottles of cheap wine that I never drink, or basically anything with the couples name that everyone always throws away. Just had to respond!
Posted by 27Sunrise[/QUOTE]

<div>I fail to see why you had to publicly connect your charitable contribution to your wedding. Many, many people are put off by this. Make a donation--fine. Don't have favors--also fine. A donation is not a favor to anyone other than the charity and those it supports.</div>

Negazilla

Most any wedding favor that isn't edible is awful.  But, there was one wedding were the couple gave out tiny whisks with a heart in the center prong.  Perfect for vinaigrettes and any small volume.  Easily the best wedding favor I've ever received, even including edible ones.  I never knew I needed a tiny whisk until I had one.

misshart00

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[QUOTE]Most any wedding favor that isn't edible is awful.  But, there was one wedding were the couple gave out tiny whisks with a heart in the center prong.  Perfect for vinaigrettes and any small volume.  Easily the best wedding favor I've ever received, even including edible ones.  I never knew I needed a tiny whisk until I had one.
Posted by Negazilla[/QUOTE]



I got that same thing once too! It's pretty convenient.

mbuckley85

Not me, but my fiance was at his cousins wedding and they were handed small boxes with the favor in it.  A serrated knife with the letters L-O-V-E punched out of the blade.

http://www.weddingfavorsunlimited.com/love_cheese_knife_with_hollow_heart_handle.html

Because really, nothing says "LOVE" like a knife.

stefaniewattie

I got a CD once, that had awful slow songs that "meant something to the couple"...nice idea, but I clicked through the songs once on the way home from the wedding and havent seen that cd since. waste of their money.
We spent an entire weekend making jam me, FI and my parents, it was my late paternal grandmothers recipe, so its sentimental and yummy Im excited about it, but if my dad hadnt suggested my grandmas jam we probably would have done nothing, making jam is really inexpensive - and my parents bought the stuff to make it anyway, but anything else would not have been worth it. Rather than pay for a favor we invited a few extra people and hired the better DJ

Elinetrouwt

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[QUOTE]A heavy-ass silver dolphin statuette that doubled as a bottle opener. It was engraved with "Diving into love! John and Jane Doe, (wedding date)." We gave it away as a white elephant gift.
Posted by xxstardust[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Congratulations! You received the most horrible thank you from this thread!</div><div>
</div><div>I'd be happier with a donation than almost any other thank you I can think of, unless it was a very political, very extremist charity (unless I agreed with them, but I'd still frown upon that because I'd know others wouldn't). I have considered charity thank you's for our own wedding. Not doing them because of the negative press they get here, but I'd definitely like it if others did.

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myname1234

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worst favors you've ever received? : I just HAD to respond to this... We are doing this for our wedding this summer.  We are making a donation to a charity in memory of a friend of mine who passed away from said charity disease a few years ago and <strong>I thought it was a lovely way to incorporate</strong> her into our wedding. <strong>It means a lot to us to donate to this charity</strong>, and of course people are entitled to their opinions, but I think it is rude to say this type of wedding favor is awful. <strong>Much better than a tiny picture frame, little bottles of cheap wine that I never drink, or basically anything with the couples name that everyone always throws away.</strong> Just had to respond!
Posted by 27Sunrise[/QUOTE]

1.  I think it's great you want to remember your friend.   You can incorporate your friend in many ways....memorial flower, candle, picture or one of those hot air balloon things (the name is totally escaping me right now).   

2. (in the wrong order) "it means a lot to US"....great.  but the favors aren't about YOU.  they are about your guests.  The wedding stops being about the couple as soon as you hit reception time.  That is your thank you to them.  Favors, if you chose to have them, should be something THEY would enjoy...not something YOU would enjoy.

3.  Maybe YOU think it's better, but what if Suze on table 6 is extremely passionate about her own charity?  Can you say without question that you know the favorite charity of every guest on your wedding list?  I think this is assuming, and you know what they say about assuming....

moemac5150

Wine glasses with their names and wedding date printed on it.  They are stored in the back of my cabinet as emergency wine glasses. 

I usually end up with candles. Once I got a small appetizer plate shaped like a heart. I usually just toss the non-edible stuff. I have enough crap at home.

hoffse

A set of mini playing cards - too small to play with, had the wedding date and couple's name on them, and it had nothing to do with anything about their wedding.... like, I even checked the invitation later (I'm bad about not throwing away envelopes) to see if they used the king & queen of hearts stamp because maybe that was a connection I was supposed to make.  Nope.  FI and I still talk about it.

I'm not a fan of anything unedible, though the mini whisk idea is pretty good, particularly for a shower favor.  FI and I are doing mints.  I know somebody mentioned that as the worst favor ever, but ours are pretty tasty (or so my taste-tester friends have told me) and plenty of people like having fresh breath after dinner.  It's also something people aren't forced to take home because their utility is pretty much limited to that evening.  And if people don't want to eat them, they don't have to.

ali585

I "accidentally" leave behind all favors that have the couple's name or wedding date on them.

mandydc0509

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[QUOTE]Anything personalized with the Bride and Groom's name and date of wedding.  I normally just leave those there.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]

This. If it's not edible, I probably won't take it.

AlmostMrsStrong

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[QUOTE]I am surprised to even see this.  I think weddings are an extremely subjective event.  People shouldn't be complaining about something that they weren't obligated to go in the first place.
Posted by wrdgirl[/QUOTE]
This thread is not called "What's the worst wedding you've ever been to?", so I fail to see your point. I want to see someone get married. That has no bearing on the fact that their "favor" is a cheap trinket that I don't want.

JoelandLeann

Goldfish. They were part of the centrepieces. Most of them had died.