My day is too weird....

SmirkySmile63

So, if you read my post below you'll know my day started with my normally sweet and sane FMIL going apesh*t over the seating arrangements.

I just got home from work and I have a package addressed to FI and I.  It's a rather nice gift from our registry, except its from someone we definitely didn't expect to be receiving a gift from.

Back story:  I met FI through my roommate, who had been friends with him for years and harbored a secret serious crush on him.  When we started dating she kind of flipped out, moved out within a week, and started talking a lot of trash about me.  Not FI of course, he was just lured in by my devious ways.  She hasn't spoken to either of us in years, which is a shame because I really enjoyed her company before things got messy.

Guess who this package was from? 

It was shipped from Macy's, with her name and a "Enjoy your life together" message.  No return address.  So- assuming this isn't some weird passive aggressive attempt (she has bragged about sending a couple she was dating- yes a couple- a nice bottle of wine when they broke up with her and got married just to make them uncomfortable by reminding them of how they "wronged" her) how do I send a thank you card?  Would Macy's give me her address? 

I would just write something generic, or maybe have FI write it since she's not angry at him. 

And now it is time for wine and Sherlock. and then more wine.

Simply Fated

I'd see if I could get her address and send her an equally passive aggressive thank you note.

SmirkySmile63

Taking the high road on this is so much more satisfying than ignoring her.  Whether its passive aggressive or her attempt at an apology, a simple "Thank you so much for the lovely bowls.  We'll enjoy displaying them in our new home" will be appropriate.

aurianna

Do she and your FI still talk? Do you have a lot of mutual friends?

If not... then that totally means she's been stalking your FB or Knot.

I find that amusing (probably in part because I've done nutty things like that too).

lindseyann410

I like the idea of having your FI write the note. Maybe something like this:

Soandso,

Thank you so much for the lovely bowls.  We'll enjoy displaying them in our new home.  It was very sweet of you to think of Smirky and me at such a happy time in our l ives together.

FI

Katelyn89

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[QUOTE]I like the idea of having your FI write the note. Maybe something like this: Soandso, Thank you so much for the lovely bowls.  We'll enjoy displaying them in our new home.  It was very sweet of you to think of Smirky and me at such a happy time in our l ives together. FI
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Do this! Perfect amount of passive aggressiveness.

SmirkySmile63

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[QUOTE]I like the idea of having your FI write the note. Maybe something like this: Soandso, Thank you so much for the lovely bowls.  We'll enjoy displaying them in our new home.  It was very sweet of you to think of Smirky and me at such a happy time in our l ives together. FI
Posted by lindseyann410[/QUOTE]

Love it!  I may use this.  If I can track down an address that is.