Biitch and Proud?

crfische

Is the term "biitch" an acceptable and endearing term to call ourselves?

Some people pride themselves on being one.

Like, yeah, I know I'm biitch, and that's just how I am so get used to it.

Or on Facebook there's a group called Healthy Biitch Daily. It's a nutrition website for women.

Nebb

I can be a bitch at times, but I dont think im a bitch all of the time, nor am I a female dog. In the end, I dont really care either way what people want to call themselves.

ricksang

I voted total step in the wrong direction.

Calling yourself a b!tch is another way of calling yourself an inconsiderate asshole IMO.

AmoroAgain

Yeah... I call myself a bitch all the time.  And if being a bitch means that I don't enjoy taking shiit from people, or that I will call others on stupid stuff they say or that I don't agree with, well, that's what it is then!

TheSaltyPeanut

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[QUOTE]I voted total step in the wrong direction. Calling yourself a b!tch is another way of calling yourself an inconsiderate asshole IMO.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

THIS... love it.  So true.

salt78

I call myself a biitch when I'm joking around because we ALL know that's not true.

JessAndTrav

I voted indifferent. I will claim being a biitch from time to time, usually in the way of, "I know it's a biitch move, but it just had to be done." or something to that effect.

I have never said, I'm a bitch and proud.

I do think that it's going in the wrong direction for women, somewhat. While I love a good episode of The Bad Girl's Club, what is that really saying about women? We're crazy? And they're proud to be the bitchiestgirleva! I can't comprehend that.

katiewhompus

I normally try to be as nice as possible but some days its just "damn right I'm a biitch today so screw you"

Like the guy at Petsmart who's dog pooped right in front of the oops station while I was cleaning out a hamster cage. I very nice told him "oh there's some paper towel and a trash can at the oops station for you" since I had my hands filled with bedding. Apparently he turned the corner and went "stupid bitch expects me to pick up dog shiit" iwhile walking by the other manager.  Naturally the manager told me and on his way out I was just like "you have yourself a wonderful day sir, and thank you oh so much for cleaning up after your dog instead of expecting us to do it for you"

crfische

Well, at what point does just being assertive translate into being an all out biitch, though, ya know?

You're assertive, mo, and you don't take shiit from people, but I wouldn't call you a biitch, necessarily.

temerityjane

People saying, "I'm a biitch, deal with it" or "I'm a biitch and proud of it" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's not something to be proud of, as far as I'm concerned. Being assertive, being an advocate for yourself, standing up for yourself - those are all admirable. Being rude, obnoxious, blunt, harsh, etc to get what you want or make your points and then excuse it all away with "I'm a biitch, so what?" is just so distasteful.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]Well, at what point does just being assertive translate into being an all out biitch, though, ya know? You're assertive, mo, and you don't take shiit from people, but I wouldn't call you a biitch, necessarily.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Well, that's good to know, I'm sure a few people would think of me as bitchyinstead. lol

cengle

Eh, I'm indifferent. I think the term means different things to different people. But then again, I'm not the type who gets offended when certain terms are used that might offend other people (retarded, gay, bitch, etc. etc)  I guess I'm just ambivalent...and I hang around people who curse like sailors.

temerityjane

Oh and my distaste for it has been trained into Phil. He's allowed to say, "You're acting like a biitch/acting biitchy right now" but not flat out call me a biitch, because I'm not one. I have my moments like everyone else, but they're just moments. Men have them, too.

crfische

I see being bitchy and being a biitch as very different things.

[Deleted User]

I can't stand it when people say "I'm a bitch and proud of it". To me, that's not something to be proud of and I typically think less of those that use that line as their personal bumper sticker. There is a definite difference between being assertive and being a bitch.

alixzafiris

I can be a bitch. I know it and I admit to it. At the same time, it's generally not a planned malisciousness so much as I'm exceedingly blunt and though I can be more PC and kind when it's warranted, a lot of the time I just word vomit out the bitchiness and think after I've said it. I don't go around saying "I'm a bitch and I'm proud" because I think eloquence and sensitivity are more deserving qualities of my pride, but I've a short fuse with some things and if I've been a bitch, I'll readily admit it. Plus, I think in some cases it's because I get my hackles up and respond with strength; the most common case of this is with unknown chicks. They tend to a) not like me on sight b) talk sh!t openly in front of me, about me, because they think I'll just clam up and take it. I won't.

ricksang

I tend to go out of my way to try and NOT be a b!tch but then sometimes that backfires and I wonder why the hell am I being nice to this person?

goheels05

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[QUOTE]People saying, "I'm a biitch, deal with it" or "I'm a biitch and proud of it" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's not something to be proud of, as far as I'm concerned. Being assertive, being an advocate for yourself, standing up for yourself - those are all admirable. Being rude, obnoxious, blunt, harsh, etc to get what you want or make your points and then excuse it all away with "I'm a biitch, so what?" is just so distasteful.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

This.  Those phrases bring to mind Jerry Springer and Judge Joe Brown episodes and WT skanks I went to high school with.  Oh, and the lacrosse girlfriends in college who were from Jersey.  They were just like characters off Jersey Shore.  I would never be proud to compare myself to any of those people.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]I see being bitchy and being a biitch as very different things.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Yup, me too.  Amoro, sometimes you're bitchy, but I wouldn't classify you as an all-out bitch.  (I'm bitchy sometimes too!)  To be a bitch is to have zero regard for other people's feelings, etc., to me.  Being blunt and not taking crap from people is different.  A bitch would recognize that she could use different words and convey the same message, without being too hurtful - and would chose the hurtful option. 

saschaduran

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[QUOTE]People saying, "I'm a biitch, deal with it" or "I'm a biitch and proud of it" is one of my biggest pet peeves. It's not something to be proud of, as far as I'm concerned. Being assertive, being an advocate for yourself, standing up for yourself - those are all admirable. Being rude, obnoxious, blunt, harsh, etc to get what you want or make your points and then excuse it all away with "I'm a biitch, so what?" is just so distasteful.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

100% agreed.  Being assertive and strong is an asset to be proud of.  Being obnoxious, harsh and rude are indicators of low intelligence to me, and show a lack of ability to say things with thought and diplomacy and to appropriately communicate with people.  It shows that you have a narrow mind and have a diregard for the feelings of others.

NuggetBrain

Eh, my two BFFs and I will sometimes greet each other with "Sup bitch!" And I am very fond of "Bitch, please." And sometimes when they say something snarky, I'll follow with "OMG you're such a bitch".  But they (and I) know I'm not really saying they're a bitch. So I'm rather indifferent.  It depends on the context of the word - if it's someone I know, or it's used jokingly or whatever, no biggie.  But if someone is really like "Dude, you're a bitch" then sh*t gets real.