So, I'm sitting here going over the guestlist, and starting addressing the envelopes with the Save the Date. My fiance looks over my shoulder and see that I'm addressing the one to his sister and her husband. I've addressed it as "Mr and Mrs John Smith" because our wedding is going to be very traditional and formal, and that's what I was taught was the proper formal traditional way to address things!
Well, he sees that and tells me that he doesn't think his sister is going to like that very much. ??? Seriously? He says she'll be annoyed that her name isn't on it. But I thought "Mrs John Smith" WAS a version of her name! But he was adamant that she wouldn't like it. So I ask him, what the heck am I supposed to do? He says to use "Jane and John Smith". But that's not formal at all!! He just doesn't get what the problem with that is.
Then he goes on to say that he actually doesn't think any of his friends from college and grad school will like it either. I'm throwing up my hands! Am I just supposed to address all the invitations informallly now? Shouldn't they realize that this is the proper formal way of addressing things to a married couple!?