I am the mother of the groom. This is a very unusual situation and any advice would be helpful. My son is getting married in a few months. Everything was fine until a few months ago when he had a falling out with this brother over his brother's business (not the groom's). I was informed that his brother was not going to get an invite to the wedding. I was shocked that they would actually do such a thing. After a big upset and very heated family discussion they gave in but said that he would be seated in a corner of the room. I had to involve the mother of the bride because not only was I sick and extremely upset over the whole siituation as were alot of other people in our family. The MOB assured me that my son would be invited and seated with his family. My son (the groom) also had a falling out with one of his first cousins and she and her husband were not going to get invited but my sister and her other children were. It's an awful, awful situation. We got thru that, but now my son and future daughter in law are giving me the cold shoulder and hardly talking to me. I had no say in the guest list for our side of the family and that turned into a disaster also. 4th cousins got invited instead of 2nd cousins. Two 2nd cousins got invited but other ones didn't. We were not allowed to invite any of our lifelong close friends because according to the bride and groom they were not important to them. All I was told is that this was "their day" and they were going to do it their way!! They wanted to invite who they wanted and did not care about our feelings or opinions on the subject whatsoever. Not only that but my son (whom the groom is on the outs with) is not allowed to take a guest, my sister is not allowed to take a guest as is my mother, and other close relatives. I have neices and nephews who can take a guest but the ones I have mentioned above cannot. I can't make any rhyme or reason out of it. I've been told to worry abou the WHD and my dress and NOTHING else. I do not even know who's in the wedding party execpt my 16 year old nephew. The groom has 2 brother and they are not in the wedding party. The bride and groom are being spiteful, rude, inconsiderate and selfish let alone respect is out the window. I was so close with them before all this and now I've had the door slammed on my face and I'm being treated like dog crap by the both of them. There's so much more to this, but I just can't get into all of it. I'm trying to go out of my way to be nice, but it's just not working. I only was peace, harmony and happiness in my family. I've tried talking to the bride's parents, but all they can see is that their daughter is happy and that's all that matters to them. I don't look forward to this wedding and if I could stay home that day, I would. I've cried my eyes out about it and have gone thru many sleepless nights. Does anyone have any words of comfort for me to help me get thru this. I just don't know what to do!!!