We've been engaged just over a year and are trying to set an official date for the wedding. The big issue is all of our family lives in another state and are furious we are not having the wedding "back home". I don't want to have it there for several reasons. They are telling me it's selfish to have it here causing everybody to try and afford to fly, rent a car, and find a hotel. They said it would be cheaper for us to fly back (since its just 2 of us).
My fiance wants to do a destination wedding and our families made it clear they won't come if we do a destination wedding because ther'es no way they could afford that. I really like the destination idea, something unique and all inclusive to do the wedding and honeymoon in the same place. I was looking at flight information and it's the same price to fly to the destination wedding location as it would be for them to fly here. Not sure what to do and very torn. I feel like nobody really cares what I want, and my entire life I've just always been a people pleaser. I'm almost to the point of just the two of us eloping and possibly doing a reception back home later.
Any suggestions on how to deal? I'm already stressed and planning hasn't even begun!