Thank you Cards

teachergurl2002

Hi all-
Need some help with my thank you cards. My uncle and 2 of his adult children attended our wedding in February. Due to financial situations both of my cousins have moved back in with him temporarily. My uncle gave a joint gift for the three of them. Anyway....now that I am doing thank you's.....do I send 1 card to the three of them since the gift was from the three of them in or do I send 3 individual thank you cards?
Any help would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thank you!

seesawgirl

And now I dont feel so bad for taking 2 months to send out our thank you cards.

I would think that since the gift was from all 3 of them, and they all live together, you can just send one card. Someone, correct me if I'm wrong please. 

RebeccaB88

Technically, if the kids are adults, then everyone should get their own separate thank you note. But you're so far behind schedule getting them out, I'd say write one note to all 3, just so you can get it done.  Why in the world would it take you almost 6 months to get them done anyway?

Summer2011Bride

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[QUOTE]Technically, if the kids are adults, then everyone should get their own separate thank you note. But you're so far behind schedule getting them out, I'd say write one note to all 3, just so you can get it done.  Why in the world would it take you almost 6 months to get them done anyway?
Posted by RebeccaB88[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this. Ideally, I would write a separate note to all of them because they are adults, but at this point, you just need to get your TY notes out. Why such the long wait?

teachergurl2002

Thank you for your help....as for why its taken so long....well sometimes life gets in the way of etiquette and when you have 2 family members die in March, a husband that ended up in the hospital for 2 weeks, in ICU, after the honeymoon in April  and a dear friend die tragically in June, the last thing on your list of "to do's" is write out thank you cards. Oh and my thank you cards were not even ready until the beginning of May.

seesawgirl

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[QUOTE]Thank you for your help....as for why its taken so long....well sometimes life gets in the way of etiquette and when you have 2 family members die in March, a husband that ended up in the hospital for 2 weeks, in ICU, after the honeymoon in April  and a dear friend die tragically in June, the last thing on your list of "to do's" is write out thank you cards. Oh and my thank you cards were not even ready until the beginning of May.
Posted by teachergurl2002[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I'm sorry for the string of tragedy that your family has gone through. That being said, you didn't say anything about that in your original post. We only know what you posted, and typically, taking more than 2-3 months to get them out is a very big breach of etiquette, which is why everyone was curious about your reasons. It wouldn't be the first time a new bride flounced in here after 6 months and asking a question such as yours, citing just being "busy", or just not thinking it was that big of a deal. </div>

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thank you Cards : I'm sorry for the string of tragedy that your family has gone through. That being said, you didn't say anything about that in your original post. We only know what you posted, and typically, taking more than 2-3 months to get them out is a very big breach of etiquette, which is why everyone was curious about your reasons. It wouldn't be the first time a new bride flounced in here after 6 months and asking a question such as yours, citing just being "busy", or just not thinking it was that big of a deal. 
Posted by seesawgirl[/QUOTE]

This. I'm sorry to hear all of that too. Focus on getting them out as absolutely quickly as possible at this point.

carolemb

I'd send each their own individual thank you notes. The exceptions (I think) are couples and kids.
Oh, and better to send a late thank you than not send one at all. People will appreciate getting it, even if it's late! 
 

rlavach

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[QUOTE]Thank you for your help....as for why its taken so long....well sometimes life gets in the way of etiquette and when you have 2 family members die in March, a husband that ended up in the hospital for 2 weeks, in ICU, after the honeymoon in April  and a dear friend die tragically in June, the last thing on your list of "to do's" is write out thank you cards. Oh and my thank you cards were not even ready until the beginning of May.
Posted by teachergurl2002[/QUOTE]
And this is why I'm not a fan of people always questioning those who take />2wks to get their TYs out. I'm so sorry to hear that all happened to you. While you should technically send all 3 a separate card, I agree that in these circumstances, 1 combined would suffice. Plus, in all honesty, how many men really care about TYs? 

aragx6

^I never understand when people say this. 2 months after Fi's uncles' wedding and he was all "Jeez, where the hell is our TY?"

RebeccaB88

You DID have a lot going on in your life, and a LOT of tragedy. For that I am sorry.  It's a lot for any newlywed to deal with. I am glad your husband is recovering, and I'm sorry for your losses.

However, you could have still done them before 6 months. Writing 5 notes per day, every day, you can have 150 notes done and gone in 30 days. Even if you spend 5 minutes per note (which is a long time), that's less than half an hour out of your day. And busywork is sometimes a good way to take your mind off of bad things happening around you, and the stress associated with them. I studied for a major licensing exam for work while sitting next to my father in ICU (and I passed). My concentration wasn't the best, but the activity gave me something to focus on other than the bad stuff.  And in the week following my father's funeral, my mother wrote a thank you note for every single flower arrangement, food item, donation, and thoughtful gesture we received in his honor.  She'd just lost her husband, but thanking people for their kindness was foremost on her mind.

I can't imagine waiting almost 3 months just for custom cards to be ordered, though.  I'd have bought a box of cards at Target and knocked them out within a few weeks.  If you didn't go on a honeymoon immediately, I'd think there was time to do something before the tragedies struck.

teachergurl2002

Thank you to those of you who have offered advice regarding the 3 thank you cards. Yes, they are late and both of our families are well aware of the reasons why the the thank you's are coming out late and we have been well assured no one is any taking offense. Im quite sure doing 5 thank you cards a day would have helped and yes, I did not go away on my HM right away but the cards were not ready and I did pay for them. However, dealing with wills, and legal matters, packing up homes, hospice care and what to do with deceased family members minor children, dealing with their day to day demands/schedules, taking care of a seriously ill husband as well as working 2 jobs does seem more important. So when having to choose what to do with my time, the thank you notes took a back seat.
The cards have been finished and went out in the mail about 20 minutes ago.Oh and I did send out 3 seperate thank you's....not wanting to offend anyone.