Shower etiquette

Kabbie54

I need some advice on a sticky situation. My fiance and I moved to Texas a few months back, but are planning on having all of our wedding happenings back home in Michigan, including the shower. Since I will have to fly to and from Michigan and won't be able to take gifts on the plane with me, what kind of registry should I do? In turn, what kind of shower should I have? It seems inappropriate to have a full afternoon shower if I cannot receive gifts.

We were discussing having a Amazon.com registry. I wanted to have a night cocktail shower anyway. Ideas? Suggestions? Help!

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I need some advice on a sticky situation. My fiance and I moved to Texas a few months back, but are planning on having all of our wedding happenings back home in Michigan, including the shower. Since I will have to fly to and from Michigan and won't be able to take gifts on the plane with me, what kind of registry should I do? In turn, what kind of shower should I have?<strong> It seems inappropriate to have a full afternoon shower if I cannot receive gifts.</strong> We were discussing having a Amazon.com registry. I wanted to have a night cocktail shower anyway. Ideas? Suggestions? Help!
Posted by Kabbie54[/QUOTE]

WHy wouldn't you be able to box up the gifts and check them on the plane?  Another option is to ship them home to yourself.  You're right about the bolded part.   If getting the gifts home is too much of a hassle or financial burden, then decline the shower if it's offered.

crash2729

I'm not familiar with a night cocktail shower. 

Is there a way you can have a traditional registry and leave the gifts with a family member who could get them shipped to you? 

There's really no good way to have a shower without presents.

NOLAbridealmost

You should decline any showers if you don't want boxed gifts; that's the entire point. An amazon.com shower would be incredibly rude. 

It's fine to have a shower at night with cocktails (my shower was at night with cocktails) but it's still about showering the bride with physical gifts; that doesn't change regardless of time. 

These decisions really should just be left to whoever is hosting your shower.

bonge

I wouldn't have a shower if you can't take gifts back, or i would take an empty suitcase for them & have it passed by word of mouth about flying. One of my showers turned out to be a gift card shower & i had no idea until i got there. The other one was mostly gifts, both were great. 

hoffse

You either need to ship them yourself, or pack them.  If you register for soft things - think towels, bedding, etc. stuff will pack fine.  Just check an empty suitcase or two.  I know it costs $$ to check bags, but it's either that or ship them back.  Shipping is probably cheaper, but packing your gifts is more convenient.  I agree with PPs though - do NOT do an Amazon.com shower.  That's very rude.