My grandpa, who is almost 100 years old, is not able to attend the ceremony (because there is a lot of standing, sitting, kneeling, and the church is hot and crowded) but he is able to make a cameo appearance at the reception during the family introduction.
Do we still list grandpa in the church program? Our concern is that if we don't list him, people may think he has already passed away, when on the contrary he's alive and kicking.