The most offensive wedding behavior - Post the worst you've seen

SonaliPop

The worst I have ever witnessed...

Last year, this girl I have hung out with a handful of times was getting married. I didn't expect an invite and knew I wasn't invited but was happy to discuss the wedding with her. She was unhappy with the amount of people who were coming to her bachelorette party (it was a small group, which I think is fine) so she decided to force her bridesmaids to invite their friends or fun people. I received an invite to her bachelorette party in the mail because I'm 'fun' and it asked me to dress up and come out and have a good tim. I was shocked.

The worst part? I received a phone call from the same bridesmaid who invited me - who desperately didn't want to have to do it in the first place because she KNEW it was awful - to tell me that I couldn't come to the wedding and it was just for the party. And later, I got another call from her when the bride finally realized it was wrong...and all of us who were invited to the bachelorette party were un-invited!

AWFUL. The bride wanted to talk to me about it...I avoided that weird conversation for sure.

apple_green

Super weird!

This happened a year ago?

shellydiane820

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[QUOTE]The worst I have ever witnessed... Last year, this girl I have hung out with a handful of times was getting married. I didn't expect an invite and knew I wasn't invited but was happy to discuss the wedding with her. She was unhappy with the amount of people who were coming to her bachelorette party (it was a small group, which I think is fine) so she decided to force her bridesmaids to invite their friends or fun people. I received an invite to her bachelorette party in the mail because I'm 'fun' and it asked me to dress up and come out and have a good tim. I was shocked. The worst part? I received a phone call from the same bridesmaid who invited me - who desperately didn't want to have to do it in the first place because she KNEW it was awful - to tell me that I couldn't come to the wedding and it was just for the party. And later, I got another call from her when the bride finally realized it was wrong...and all of us who were invited to the bachelorette party were un-invited! AWFUL. The bride wanted to talk to me about it...I avoided that weird conversation for sure.
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GASP!

SonaliPop

I think so. Probably more. I tried to block it out of my mind. I have seen her a few times since and it is always so awkward between us.

This same bride tried to tell her bms how much they should pay each for her bachelorette party and her shower. I can't imagine ever doing that to anybody...times are tough!!!

mizri

Ok, I put this on the deleted thread.... I love "copy and paste"
I was at my cousin's wedding a couple years ago and the bride was on a "MY DAY" kick the whole time.  She had a wedding dress that she bought used that didnt fit her and was a nightmare from the 80's.  My mother works magic with a sewing machine, altered the dress to fit her and re-worked it to be a spaghetti strap instead of HUGE 80's sleeves.  She didn't even tell my mother "thank you" when she picked it up.  
Then, during the reception, her and my cousin were having their first dance (to Garth Brooks "Unanswered Prayers") and her mother and the mother's boyfriend started dancing about halfway through the song.  The bride pulled away from her new husband and SHOVED her mother back to her seat.  It was so tacky.  If I hadn't been holding a sleeping child, I would have grabbed my brother and started dancing.  Then hit her if she tried to push me.  All I can say is thank gods that he came to his senses and the divorce is final as of two days ago.

katieanne85

A wedding where the reception was held in the church fellowship hall, there was a two hour coctail hour while the bride had her three pro photographers shoot glamour shots of her in her couture wedding dress, a few of those photos even included her groom! there wasnt enough seating for all so we sat around drinking $5 glasses of wine from the cash bar and eating processed cheese on crackers. The invites were on mass email and explained that they were poor missionaries who just wanted to celebrate with those they loved, so they didnt think fancy invites were important and by the way they prefer cash gifts. They did not greet a single guest and thank you notes were another mass email. She has great photos of a miserable wedding.

sarah0725

I've actually had lovely experiences at all the weddings I've attended. I guess I don't know too many cretins.

SonaliPop

ShellyDiane...You have the cutest picture ever of you and your husby! Adorable!

shellydiane820

Thank you, but please don't ever say "husby" again. 


Oh that cutsie talk...nails on a chalk board!

sapphirebaby926

I've never been to a wedding where I've seen poor ettiquete but one of my FB friends recently put a status update saying 'Save the date 3/19/11!! @ such and such church!!' One of her friends posted a comment saying 'Congrats!! Am I invited??' She actually answered 'I don't know - it's looking like family only and it'll still be like 150 people'

I almost said when she first posted it 'Wow - you must have a incredible budget to invite 700+ people to your wedding!!'

SonaliPop

Apologies.

I was at the gym earlier and a woman was listening to a hip hop song where the word was used.

It stuck temporarily.

Mrs_AF

But you and your hubby wubby are so cute shelly!

amalama

BYOB wedding. Or mass FB invite. My hometown is klassy.

sgervais88

My mom and I were invited to her cousin's wedding ceremony a few years ago. Just the ceremony. Not the reception. She didn't invite my mom's siblings or parents either. And I think we overheard some of her coworkers say they weren't invited to the reception either. So basically she had a huge wedding ceremony and a small reception.

She's charming.

felicia220

I just don't like it when the Bride and Groom don't make an effort to greet their guests.  I understand that its hard to see everyone, but when they don't even try to acknowledge their guests, it pisses me off.  

JessAndTrav

I'm very late to this, but what I saw was not offensive, but more uncomfortable than anything else.

It was during the reception, and the DJ announced that it was time for the auction of the Bride's shoe.

WTF? So she walked around with one shoe on and one shoe off while the DJ worked forever trying to get a few "bids." It wasn't received well and it was just awkward for everyone.

At the same wedding, there were literally tables and chairs from wall-to-wall of the room we were in. Walking to get the food was a task in itself.

kimheartsscott

4-5 hour cocktail hour, with enough seating for at most 10 out of 200ish guests.  We left 8 or 9 hours in, and we didn't even make it to the first dance.

Also, like Jess, the place was obviously way too small for their guestlist, but it didn't seem to bother them.

eav2c

Hand's down the worst I ever saw, was the bride do a keg stand at her reception with a bunch of older folks around. What made it worse was her whole bottom was exposed... I like to have fun (and will certainly have fun at my wedding), but, I wont be showing everyone my va-jay-jay! That's for darn sure!

ootmother2

several years ago, i attended a very elegant Park Avenue wedding. 
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Almost all of the guests were seated when a somewhatt elegant woman, in  a
Chanel outfit, can of beer in one hand, cigarette in the other started to walk down the aisle.  Barefoot!

Okay, i know everyone has at leat one weird relative but no on spoke up for this babe.  


The BM shook his head in the direction of his younger brother and the younger brother and another GM escorted the woman out of the cathedral.

I think it was just some random homeless woman.  But in Chanel?

PharmacyBride

An adult male guest showed up to my friend's adult reception with a 15 year old boy (looked 12).  We were all very confused by this and I later learned from the bride that he put a girls name on the RSVP card.  When she couldn't come- he figured he would use his plus one opportunity and take his neighbor (driving on a permit) so he didn't have to pay for a hotel room.  (Suburb wedding - most of us live in the city - we rent hotels at weddings to avoid D&D)

Her venue charged $91/plate and the final head count wasn't due until the morning of- so even if it was a last minute change- she could have saved that money.

Bright side- she was too busy to waste any time caring.

JanoBean75

I've never seen anything truly offensive, but I've seen a few crashers (friends of friends that weren't invited). The last wedding I went to, this one guy wore a denim shirt with a denim jacket and jeans. He was larger and his pants were too big. He didn't have a belt OR suspenders, so when he sat down, I saw his entire ass.

MyNameIsNot

I was in a wedding that was a mess.  The bride is crazy, but it's her mother's fault.  There were a lot of things... GM grabbed my butt as we were walking down the aisle, MOH stabbed the plastic aisle runner with her shoe and dragged it behind her, MOB in a white dress, with a black thong, the GMs brought a cooler full of canned beer to the dry reception, MOB picked flowers from the venue and was putting them on the cake as guests arrived, in her pjs.  There was more, but I can't remember.  It was interesting.  

Phoeber

A friend of mine posted on facebook that "their reception was booked full", so if you hadn't RSVPd yet, you couldn't come.  He followed that up by saying gifts were still welcome.  Klassy.

kee80

I went to a wedding two years ago - the groom is the son of a famous composer & his wife, a former ballet dancer.  This woman, in her late 60's, showed up in a tight sheath dress that was so low in front, we could see her underboob.  Don't get me wrong, she's beautiful & in incredible shape, but UNDERBOOB.  At her son's wedding.  She also proceeded to drag all the GM to the dance floor & dance, um, suggestively.  It was amazing.

brookev11

My cousin, had uninvited her father and his wife to her wedding, which they were paying for.  She did not show up to decorate the reception venue, did not even have any decorations/centerpieces, anything - her step-mom and MOG had to go get things @ the last minute.  She had not planned out flowers for her BM, only for herself, so my Aunt and I got thrown into doing her flowers @ the last minute.  She was 2 hours late to the wedding.  She did let my Uncle, her father walk her down the aisle, but acted like it was no big deal that she was late...her mother came down the aisle skipping and saying, smile everyone this is a "commitment ceremony" not a funeral.  then proceeded to take pictures, running around while they are getting "married." Then the mother of the bride says to my Grandparents, "oh  ___ & ____ I did not recognize you." 
After the ceremony (which we could not hear as it was Feb, on the beach, cold, windy, in No. Cal) we find out that they did not have a marriage license.  that they just had a commitment ceremony - so the church members would be accepting of them living in his parents' house.  No one knew this, my family flew from Nebraska to California for this wedding. 
Then during this "reception" they act like it is a wedding, the MOB starts a fight with my Uncle's wife...in front of everyone.  Classy! 
The whole time I kept saying, this is what not to do @ my wedding.  My Uncle was mortified. 

SonaliPop

Ouchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh these are bad