To Invite or Not to Invite....

Artemis9999

I work at a Dr's office and have been here a little less than a year. I really love my job. We have a small office of only 6 employees. Even though I like what I do I really don't care for my coworkers. There are a couple that I like including the doctor of our practice. Would it be wrong of me to invite the doctor and the other girls that I like and not to invite the ones I don't? If it is ok how do I handle the situation? 

sclams

In an office that small, I think you should invite all of them or none of them. Inviting some and not others is only going to cause hurt feelings and resentment.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]In an office that small, I think you should invite all of them or none of them. Inviting some and not others is only going to cause hurt feelings and resentment.
Posted by sclams[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Artemis9999

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[QUOTE]If you decide to invite just a few, send the invites to their houses and don't discuss your wedding at work.  I'd also quietly mention that you were unable to invite everyone from the office and you'd prefer if they did not make a big deal out of being invited while at work. Do you hang out with any of them outside of work?  That was our "rule" for inviting coworkers.  I work in an office of 10 and am only inviting 4 and their spouses. 
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

No I don't hang out with them at all. Honestly I don't have a thing in common with any of them except the couple that I would like to invite.

golden1215

Invite them all and hope the ones you're not close with don't show.

Crissyo

I don't really think you have to invite everyone...but thats just my opinion.  If you don't care for them anyhow, then you probably won't care that they will be upset they are not invited.  However, there is a difference between not caring for someone and not really knowing someone.  If you think that inviting all of them will bring you closer or make the work evironment better, then invite them!  It also depends on your venue size and list

cm42878

How many of them were you planning on inviting out of the six?

jerseydevil

With an office that small, it's all or nothing, in my opinion.

Would you actually want to get to know them better or invite them out to just be social? If yes and you have the space, then I would invite everyone.

Artemis9999

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[QUOTE]How many of them were you planning on inviting out of the six?
Posted by cm42878[/QUOTE]

Maybe two....not completely sure.

TheCranberry

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[QUOTE]If you decide to invite just a few, send the invites to their houses and don't discuss your wedding at work.  I'd also quietly mention that you were unable to invite everyone from the office and you'd prefer if they did not make a big deal out of being invited while at work. Do you hang out with any of them outside of work?  That was our "rule" for inviting coworkers.  I work in an office of 10 and am only inviting 4 and their spouses. 
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

OP, do you think the people you would invite would be able to be discreet about having been invited?  If so, I like this idea.  However, if you think it would get out and cause problems, it's best to either invite all or none.

cm42878

I personally thing that if you are going to invite two people you should probably invite all of them. Chances are they probably wont come but I wouldnt hurt anyones feelings for anything in the world.