Ssve the date event on Facebook: tacky?

thewrightwoman22

Yes or no? I have a friend who did it, I didn't see any complaints, but this woman is not exactly known for her class. However, it seems so easy, which makes it sooo tempting.

Meegles4

No. Unless you plan on inviting all of your FB friends to your wedding, keep wedding related discussion and invitations off of FB.

AzRunner

Just say no.

Just because it's easy doesn't mean it's right, and you'll have to deal with a TON of people inviting themselves, etc.  I bet it will be more of a hassle later down the road than doing conventional STDs.

Maggie0829

No.  Facebook is an evil b*tch when it comes to wedding stuff.  Nothing good can ever come from posting about your wedding plans or STDs or anything else wedding related.

SmallenForever

Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I rarely post anything wedding related on facebook. I'm not opposed to email save the dates though, if you wanted an electronic way to do so. 

wrigleyville

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ssve-the-date-event-on-facebook-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e42f51b-858d-4a0f-99a4-10599f001e7aPost:d50bc1bd-a41e-4a3e-baae-bd2e471c1f3a">Re: Ssve the date event on Facebook: tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I rarely post anything wedding related on facebook. I'm not opposed to email save the dates though, if you wanted an electronic way to do so. 
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]

The problem with that is not everyone uses email (older relatives, for example) and some email gets filtered to the spam folder if it has more than ten recipients. Additionally, some people don't check email every day, and others will forward that email to people who aren't invited, which will create drama. (My family would do this in a heartbeat because they think everyone should be invited.)

Just say no to email.

OP - you can get some really cheap STDs if you sign up for deals from VistaPrint. They have 30% off coupons all the time. We got 50 STDs for $7. :)

courtski2004

One of my H's best friends is getting married, and his FI posted something on FB a few weeks back to this effect: "Our wedding website information is listed in the top right corner of your save the date magnet. Please refer there for all questions leading up to our wedding!". ::headdesk::

What followed were comments from friends who had not received a STD and wanted to know if they were invited. It was heartbreaking to watch the train wreck as it happened. You're asking for trouble when posting exclusionary things like that on FB. Even if nobody gave a thought to your impending wedding before the post, it can still result in some hurt feelings/awkward conversations that are unnecessary in the long run.

If you have a wedding website, you can have people RSVP there which is just as easy.

tcjames

I have to agree with most of the PP's Do not do it as a random post.!!!..However, I HAD TO Utilize FB in order to obtain addresses...No, it wouldn't have been easier to just call;I was in Nursing school (16 + hr days)...What I learned, thanks to my teens, is you can do a "private event". Yes, I was leery about but it actually worked out great. I didn't know it wouldn't show up on everyones page. It only shows up on the person page as " invited to attend an event" and only the page owner can see it....So you could go that route if you liked, but you still need  send STD's out to those without computers..HTH

Meegles4

TC - you could have also sent a personal message via FB to the people you needed addresses for. I did that, there's nothing wrong with shooting people an e-mail if you don't have time for a phone call. I don't understand why you needed to create an actual event though, private or not. Then again, it also annoys me when people create random "events" for things that aren't events, like "hey I lost my phone, give me your #" or "hey, vote for my favorite cause" events. Those aren't events, they're messages.

wrigleyville

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ssve-the-date-event-on-facebook-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e42f51b-858d-4a0f-99a4-10599f001e7aPost:b3267d19-2918-4e22-afd3-831b2c8d7c7a">Re: Ssve the date event on Facebook: tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have to agree with most of the PP's Do not do it as a random post.!!!..However, I HAD TO Utilize FB in order to obtain addresses...No, it wouldn't have been easier to just call;I was in Nursing school (16 + hr days)...What I learned, thanks to my teens, is you can do a "private event". Yes, I was leery about but it actually worked out great. I didn't know it wouldn't show up on everyones page. It only shows up on the person page as " invited to attend an event" and only the page owner can see it....So you could go that route if you liked, but you still need  send STD's out to those without computers..HTH
Posted by tcjames[/QUOTE]

No. No Facebook for STDs, period. Facebook is fine for sending a private message to obtain an address, but it is not good for an STD. What if nosy Aunt Martha asks your mother what event she's attending? Or you have people like my mother who only use Facebook to play games and has no idea how to look at a message or update her status.

Old-fashioned mail is best. It leaves little room for error (barring the post office losing the STD, but STDs aren't mandatory, so it's not a big deal).

Summer2011Bride

I would shy away from FB for anything wedding-related. The only exception I could see is a private message to get an address (though that could also be done via text since not everyone checks FB regularly).

People like getting snail mail because everything's going digital nowadays. I love getting STDs in the mail. To save on costs, you could do postcards through a place like VP. They have a lot of cute options to pick from and there is usually always a coupon code out there for VP.

thurmanpowell

You don't need to do STDs (although they would be nice with a destination wedding). If it's a big hassle maybe you should just skip them.