Friend Bridal Shower question

mharding35

 I am the brides best friend, and one of the bridesmaids. I am throwing her at bridal shower and wanted it just to be all of our close girlfriends. Do i need to invite the rest of the bridesmaids(which are her sisters), her mom, and the grooms mom? I thought traditonially you always invited the whole bridal party?

Thanks!
Megan

lauralaur

I would invite all of those people you just listed, personally.

Simply Fated

Yeah, you definitely want to invite the whole bridal party.

I think the sort of party you are describing, the one with just her friends, is more of a bachlorette party kind-of thing.

[Deleted User]

I always thought the bridal shower was for the bridal party as well as a small gathering of family members and friends invited to the wedding. Just the BP would be the bach party. I didn't have a shower, but if I did I would have definitely wanted my mom and grandmas there.

rachaelb16

I would invite the BP and the bride and groom's female family members.  Not inviting the family would probably cause many problems.  May I ask why you don't want to invite them?

mharding35

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1e4cc411-3f54-49ae-9401-0dd684b57989Post:08d8720a-f350-4d2d-85d6-42d532ad6f9f">Re: Friend Bridal Shower question</a>:
[QUOTE]I would invite the BP and the bride and groom's female family members.  Not inviting the family would probably cause many problems.  May I ask why you don't want to invite them?
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</div><div>Its not that I dont personally want to invite them, the bride just thinks it might be a tad awkward if she gets naughty gifts. Also the bride isnt to on top of how the whole "wedding thing" works. She didnt even think her mother or maid of honor would be coming to the "friend" shower. I had to inform her that traditionally they do.

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danieliza1127

Actually the bride should give you the guest list based on her wedding guest list.  She should pick the bridal party, her Mom and her FI's mom if she is local, and any other really close female friends/relatives that are invited to the wedding.  Unless you specifically tell her that you guys can only afford x number of guests. 

Now if this is just her "friends" shower, and someone else is throwing her a family shower, then that's another story.  If this is the only shower she's having, then I do think the other BMs and the Moms should be invited.

I've never seen anyone get "naughty" gifts at a bridal shower.  Those are usually reserved for the bachelorette party.

rbtrumpet

I personally wouldn't want my mom or FI's mom at my shower (I don't know what ettiquite says, but it's also a lingere shower, so I don't want them seeing that kind of stuff!)

I do think all of the BMs should be invited (if they are local), however. 

parker624

it sounds like if you were planning on giving her "naughty" gifts, then you should throw a bachelorette party just for the friends, no mothers or grandmothers or young sisters.

as for a shower, mothers and grandmothers and entire bridal party should absolutely be included, as are typically aunts and other close relatives.