Maid of Honor?

Micqs

I am in a dilemma.  The ceremony isnt any time soon and I know The Knot says it isnt too important in the early stages of planning to choose the bridal party.  However, we know we are having an extremely small bridal party (one or two bridesmaids/groomsmen and one maid of honor/bestman).  I dont really have very many close friends and no family.  Every time I think about who I want as Maid of Honor I can only think of one person.  I asked her a few months ago and she politely declined due to graduate school, living in two states away, and not being able to provide me with adequate commitment and time in planning/helping but she did say she would be a bridesmaid.  HOWEVER, this was before she was accepted into a grad program.  She is now only about an hour and a half from where I live.  Is it proper to ask her again or am I just being needy/greedy?  She is the only person I can think of.  I have other friends but as I said, I am not extremely close to many people.  I would say I do not need a Maid of Honor but you only get married once and every girl has a dream wedding in her mind.  Advice?

whitsy

I would reassure her that you don't expect anything out of her other than standing with you on your wedding day. But even then, she will still have to buy a dress, and she may feel obligated to do more. If you are determined to speak to her again about, think about phrasing like I mentioned. 

willywally5

I concur with PPs. And there's really no need to do anything yet; you have a ton of time.

jmayinc

Yea I wouldn't think it would be too horrible to ask her again, but I would stress that you don't expect her to plan parties etc. If you can stretch it and she means that much to you, I would even consider paying for the dress to have you next to you. Although she is not far away, grad school DOES take up a person's time, so be sure you are being respectful of that as well.