Invitation addressing etiquette

lisarn710

I have friends that are a gay male married couple.  While our state does not recognize their marraige, I would like to acknowledge it.  I know that normally when addressing invitations, you address it as "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith".  How should I address their invitation that does not offend and recognizes them as a married couple?

Thanks!
Lisa

bbyckes

Do they share the same last name?

aMrsin09

I would go with Mr John Smith and Mr James Thomas.  The "and" indicates married.

danieliza1127

The internet says:

Gay Married Couple with the same last name

Outer: The Messrs. Elton and David John

Inner: The Messrs. John 

Gay Married Couple with different last names

Outer: Mr. Elton John and Mr. David Furnish

Inner: Mr. John and Mr. Furnish  

georgia_bride09

If they have the same last name: Mr. and Mr. John Smith

If they don't: Mr. Dave Jones and Mr. John Smith

The "and" implies marriage.

tenofcups4me

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-addressing-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1ea28b77-0471-4138-bd6a-772909bdd086Post:139f8111-2925-4bf7-be0e-4c59d7c298f8">Re: Invitation addressing etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]If they have the same last name: Mr. and Mr. John Smith [Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Um, and whose name exactly gets to be included and whose deleted? That's an inane way of addresssing for heterosexual couples to begin with and makes absolutely zero sense for same sex couples.

Assuming they have different last names:
Mr. John Smith and Mr. Joe Blow (the first name woul d be the one who I knew better or had met frist; if I knew them equally, I'd probably just put them in alpha order)