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Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite???

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Okay so I'm working on addressing my wedding invites. I have a couple of adult cousins unfortunately still living with mom & dad. I've read many wedding etiquette website stating that anyone over the age of 16-18 should receive their own invite. Yes I understand that but I'm trying to keep my guest list down and If I send them their own invite I feel like I have to include a guest for them. I don't want them to bring their boyfriend/ girlfriend of the week, someone that I'll probably never meet again, let alone pay their way. Obviously if they've been with their significant other for several years and the entire family knows them then I would invite them. But back to the fact of the matter if their 25 and living with mom and dad can I address the outer envelope as.

Mr & Mrs John Doe
& Family

and then on the inner envelope be more specific

Uncle John & Aunt Kathy
    & Cousin Mike

I figure why waste a expensive invite and send more that one to the household when they'll probably only keep one and throw the other away??
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    The correct etiquette is that anyone over the age of 18 gets their own invite.

    The only trouble we ran into with this was some of my nephews who were away at college or didn't have a regular mailing address.  Those three, we included on their parents invitation.  Not the greatest way to go but at least they got the invite.

    And we didn't extend plus ones to anyone not in a serious relationship, married, engaged, living together or somewhat established as a couple

    ETAL  "and family" can get you in real trouble as it's non specific

    is great aunt gertrude family? What about her daughter & boyfriend?

    that's trouble waiting to happen

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    [QUOTE]Okay so I'm working on addressing my wedding invites. I have a couple of adult cousins unfortunately still living with mom & dad. I've read many wedding etiquette website stating that anyone over the age of 16-18 should receive their own invite. Yes I understand that but I'm trying to keep my guest list down and If I send them their own invite I feel like I have to include a guest for them. I don't want them to bring their boyfriend/ girlfriend of the week, someone that I'll probably never meet again, let alone pay their way. Obviously if they've been with their significant other for several years and the entire family knows them then I would invite them.<strong> But back to the fact of the matter if their 25 and living with mom and dad can I address the outer envelope as. Mr & Mrs John Doe & Family</strong> and then on the inner envelope be more specific Uncle John & Aunt Kathy     & Cousin Mike I figure why waste a expensive invite and send more that one to the household when they'll probably only keep one and throw the other away??
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]
    You've read the etiquette books.  You know the answer to this.  Why is this even a question?
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    [QUOTE]Okay so I'm working on addressing my wedding invites. I have a couple of adult cousins unfortunately still living with mom & dad. I've read many wedding etiquette website stating that anyone over the age of 16-18 should receive their own invite. Yes I understand that but I'm trying to keep my guest list down and If I send them their own invite I feel like I have to include a guest for them. I don't want them to bring their boyfriend/ girlfriend of the week, someone that I'll probably never meet again, let alone pay their way. Obviously if they've been with their significant other for several years and the entire family knows them then I would invite them. But back to the fact of the matter if their 25 and living with mom and dad can I address the outer envelope as. Mr & Mrs John Doe & Family and then on the inner envelope be more specific Uncle John & Aunt Kathy     & Cousin Mike<strong> I figure why waste a expensive invite and send more that one to the household when they'll probably only keep one and throw the other away??</strong>
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    <div>Because it's proper etiquette, that's why.  Anyone over 18 gets their own invite.  Whether or not you extend plus ones to single people is your choice.  </div><div>
    </div><div>But, do you even have a question here?  Or was this whole post just to tell us you're saying screw etiquette?</div>
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I sent five invites to the same house.  Yep FIVE.

    MIL, 2 SIL, BIL and grandma all live under the same roof and they are all over 21.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • narmstrong452narmstrong452
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    why do you people even bother writing snippy ass comments back!!! a waste of your time and mine!!! But thank you everyone that has given me a logical answer back!!!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : I listed the adults/parents on the outer envelope and then listed the individual children/guests/what-have-you on the inner envelope. Mr. & Mrs. John Doe (outer) Mr. & Mrs. John Doe <strong>Michael, Marlee, and Madeline (inner)</strong> I think if you just put "and family" you're leaving it wide open for anybody that Mr. & Mrs. Doe consider family (grandparents, aunts, etc).  This seems to happen sometimes if Mr. Doe can't come, then Mrs. Doe will figure she can bring her mother or whatever.
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
    That's only appropriate etiquette if the children are minors.
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    [QUOTE]why do you people even bother writing snippy ass comments back!!! a waste of your time and mine!!!
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    [QUOTE]why do you people even bother writing snippy ass comments back!!! a waste of your time and mine!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    Why do you ask stupid questions that you already know the answers to?  Talk about wasting people's time. 

    PS.  It's an ETIQUETTE board.  You're not going to get answers saying, "well, you know the proper etiquette is X, but go ahead and do Y anyway.  IT'S YOUR DAY!!! DO WHAT YOU WANT!"
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    [QUOTE]why do you people even bother writing snippy ass comments back!!! a waste of your time and mine!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    <div>And why do "you people" insist on asking questions that you admittedly already know the answer to?  You're not going to find people on the ETIQUETTE board telling you that it's okay to not follow proper etiquette on something like addressing invitations.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Why do you ask stupid questions that you already know the answers to?  Talk about wasting people's time.  PS.  It's an ETIQUETTE board.  You're not going to get answers saying, "well, you know the proper etiquette is X, but go ahead and do Y anyway.  IT'S YOUR DAY!!! DO WHAT YOU WANT!"
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Why do you ask stupid questions that you already know the answers to?  Talk about wasting people's time.  PS.  It's an ETIQUETTE board.  You're not going to get answers saying, "well, you know the proper etiquette is X, but go ahead and do Y anyway.  IT'S YOUR DAY!!! DO WHAT YOU WANT!"
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    What is the problem with sending them their own invitation? Pretty much everyone I know has extras anyway.  Is the extra postage really worth not following etiquette?






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    You stated etiquette yourself, so you know the rule.  The question is whether or not you're going to consciously break it.  That's something that only you can decide.  I can't remember for sure, but I think we did break it in a couple of cases.
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  • narmstrong452narmstrong452
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Mind meld
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
    Well you just very pleasant, bridezilla, you probablly got married like 5 years ago and have nothing better to do with you life than harass people that are happy with their lives because you've probablly already got divorced. Wow get a life!!!!
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    Obviously if they've been with their significant other for several years and the entire family knows them then I would invite them

    No, if someone is dating someone exclusively, they should be invited together.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Well you just very pleasant, bridezilla, you probablly got married like 5 years ago and have nothing better to do with you life than harass people that are happy with their lives because you've probablly already got divorced. Wow get a life!!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    <div>You're right, my comment was totally bridezilla-ish.  </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Well you just very pleasant, bridezilla, you probablly got married like 5 years ago and have nothing better to do with you life than harass people that are happy with their lives because you've probablly already got divorced. Wow get a life!!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    Don't worry hunny.  This is what you have to look forward to, once your pretty princess day is over.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Well you just very pleasant, bridezilla, you probablly got married like 5 years ago and have nothing better to do with you life than harass people that are happy with their lives because you've probablly already got divorced. Wow get a life!!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    Don't you feel sorry for her husband?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Don't you feel sorry for her husband?
    Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Well you just very pleasant, bridezilla, you probablly got married like 5 years ago and have nothing better to do with you life than harass people that are happy with their lives because you've probablly already got divorced. Wow get a life!!!!
    Posted by narmstrong452[/QUOTE]

    <div>Nah, Beachy's a newlywed.  I'm the one who's been married forever and still hanging around to torture new brides.  It's ok, you can feel sorry for my husband, I do.</div>
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  • DeadUtopiaDeadUtopia member
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    We're sticking with etiquette on this one. Most of our extended family (cousins etc) still live with their parents and we are planning on sending them their own invites. We're trying to limit randomly invited guests though by only giving plus one's to people who have been dating for a long time or are married. There are other places in the budget to cut without having to worry too much about a few extra invites and postage. GL!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : Nah, Beachy's a newlywed.  I'm the one who's been married forever and still hanging around to torture new brides.  It's ok, you can feel sorry for my husband, I do.
    Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

    You should feel sorry for my husband more!  I divorced him
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : If you're sticking with etiquette then you shouldn't have a random cutoff that you chose for deciding who is allowed a plus one and who isn't.  I'm not saying all guests need a plus one, but I am saying that anyone in a relationship should be invited with their guest.
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]


    That's what I meant. Anyone who is married or in a relationship will get a plus one (obviously if they're married, both names will be on the invite.) I guess I didn't say that clearly: single people will not be getting plus ones, but if they are dating someone when it's time to send out invites, they will get a plus one for their SO.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_adult-children-living-mom-dad-receive-their-own-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1eb75980-4303-4282-a505-298e2d1d2cc9Post:f9b9e2ec-beb6-4789-b49a-383914e04d94">Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite???</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Adult children living with Mom and Dad receive their own invite??? : That's not what you said before, so thanks for clarifying.
    Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]


    Thanks for pointing that out.

    I agree with wyney below me. "Stable" couples and long term SO's will be included, but not necessarily someone who has just started dating someone.
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    What do you mean, YOU PEOPLE?

    I think we should create a board where people can make two accounts and answer their own questions. Gawd, just let her give herself validation.


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  • wyneywyney member
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    You don't need to invite people's children to a wedding...unless maybe they are still breastfeeding.  Dare I assume that these potential guests are not in that situation? 

    So why are you inviting them?  Are you inviting the children of your aunts or uncles that you don't really care about?  Don't invite them if you don't want them to come.  Are you inviting your cousins, who are adults...regardless of their address and housing situation?  Then send them an invitation and treat them like you would any other adult guest.

    While etiquette sources vary on when a significant other must be invited, drawing the line at engaged couples or couples living together or dating for a certain amount of time can lead to offended guests, hurt feelings, and guests who aren't having fun.  Youth or financial instability does not make a relationship any less significant.  In fact, for adults living at home, romantic and companion relationships (read: intimate relationships with their peers) can be an invaluable emotional resource.

    Sometimes if you want to do things the right way, you have to do things you don't want....like pay for strangers' meals at weddings.  Luckily for you, you don't even have to worry about inviting flavors of the week.  These young adults have been invited with their parents.  Assuming the parents and/or other family members attend, they will know people there.  You already said you'd invited stable couples (though you should invite any established adult couple, not just ones that have been dating for years).  Those that are not in relationships when you send invitations out don't need their dates to be invited.  Since their invitation (the one that was specifically addressed to them) was for one person, any flavors of the week or fill-in dates have no invitation.

    In short, minors don't need dates to be accommodated or their own invitations.  For older teens (16-18) it is courteous to invite long term significant others, especially if you have met them and they are involved in family functions.  Older teens may also appreciate their own invitations.

    Adults get their own invitations, no matter where they live or with whom.  Actually, if they live with their S.O., one inviation per couple.  If they have a S.O., that person should be invited.  Judging the significance of one's other is rife with opportunities to hurt and offend.  If you know they are dating someone when the invitations are mailed, that someone's name goes on the invitation.  "And guest" is considered rude, but allows them to bring any date they want.  Single adults do not need plus ones, but it's nice.  If they don't know anyone else, it's not only nice...but often expected and makes for a happier wedding guest.

    As for postage.... you don't need fancy invitations to have good manners.  If you are at the stage where you are getting married, you should have some plain stationary or other materials for correspondance, on hand.  If you don't have a stationery wardobe, which is common these days, you should at least have some paper you feel comfortable writing formal notes on.  So a wedding invitation doesn't have to cost more than 50 cents.  Doesn't have to cost you much to respect your cousins.
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  • mrsjustinm2bmrsjustinm2b
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    The only draw back to sending each individual invites is this:

    Auntie X calls FI at 0530 and proceeds to rip a strip off him because she wasn't invited, called him a miserable person for slighting her after how much she has done for us (which for the record is show up and say hey at x-mas dinner) ....da da da. Hung up on him before he even told her that the invite may take a day or two to get there and may have been separated from the others eh?? FI's father called her later and told her of course she is invited and to call and apologize for being such an ass, still waiting on that one. I'm glad I was working and did'nt have to field that one...
    OMG talk about crazy town. I should prolly be saving up for therapist bills for my unborn children if they have to be born into this family lol
    I am beginning to find out that weddings make people on FI's side absolutely BSC !
    Of course normal people generally do not behave like that, so that was probably the worst of it...i hope. :S

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  • thesequelthesequel
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    OP - you're a real treat....stick to google - it may help to validate your bad ideas.  If you don't want proper advice - don't ask!

    I have 3 invitations going to the same house.  Do I need to make more invitations? Yes;  Do I care that I need to make more because it's proper etiquette to do so? No

    Good luck.
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  • Habs2HartHabs2Hart member
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    Gosh OP, you are so right.  All the ladies who are here giving you solid advise are all old married and divorced hags.  ALL OF THEM. 

    But you won't be, because you're so bloody pleasant. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    DH's aunt and uncle had 12 children.  We also sent 6 or 7 invitations to the same home as a result. 

    But why complain?  If these people were living on their own you'd be sending them their own invitations.  Just suck it up.
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