How much should I help with my own bachelorette party??

meisia316

How much I should be involved in the planning of my own bachelorette party?? I live in Chicago and none of my bridesmaids live here.  Chicago would be the best central location though. My MOH really wants to do a bachelorette party for me, but she lives way out on the East Coast so it would be very hard for her to coordinate much from there. I have two close friends in the city who probably would help, but both of them are getting married too next year, and I don't want to stress them out by asking them for help.

So my question is - is it rude for me to do a lot of the coordinating/planning for my own party? It would be low-key and I'm thinking we would do it as a joint bachelorette party/St. Patrick's Day celebration.

What do you girls think I should do??

waltzingmatilda13

I think you can suggest severl places or ideas since you are familiar with the area, but I would leave it at that. You don't know what kind of budget they are working with or if they have other ideas already in mind.

jenb1205

We had my bachelorette party in Austin.  My MOH lives in San Diego.  I just gave her several ideas of things I might like to do and she ran with it. 

I will say that we went and saw a variety show that was similar to Second City and everyone had a blast.  If your girls aren't from Chicago, I'd highly recommend going there, it's always a good time! 

PsyDet 2155

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[QUOTE]I think you can suggest severl places or ideas since you are familiar with the area, but I would leave it at that. You don't know what kind of budget they are working with or if they have other ideas already in mind.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

That's exactly how I would have answered this question :)

meisia316

Great!! Thanks for the feedback ladies, I think that's exactly what I'll do...just suggest a few local things and let my MOH be the boss

@jenb I will definitely suggest Second City!! I was actually just in Milwaukee for a bachelorette party and we went to a comedy club. It was really fun!

donnaoneill

I know a lot of the brides on here frown upon planning your own shower, but I basically did my whole party. It wasn't a normal bach party. The BMs only had to pay for one thing, which I asked them all in advance because none of them really know each other and so I was the glue. They all thought my idea sounded fun and we went with it. And the cost was $10 so it wasn't ridiculous. It was more of a "all the BMs hangout" instead of a bach party. I kept them all informed of the cost and wouldn't have done it if someone wasn't okay with it.

donnaoneill

Woops, i said shower right away, i meant bach party.