Shower question. Not sure what to do...

FavoriteOne

One of our very good family friends offered to host us a shower (my parents are hosting one for her son getting married May 22nd). She mentioned it once, and then hasn't said anything since. Since I need to know what's going on so I know when I need to schedule myself, is it okay to bring it up again? If so, how do you politely ask about that without seeming rude?? TIA

danieliza1127

When she offered, did you accept?  If so, don't feel bad asking about it, she offered!  Just get in touch with her and let her know that you were looking at your calendar and just wondered if she had any dates in mind for the shower. Go from there.

skippylouwho

'Hi!  You mentioned hosting a shower for us some time ago and I thought that was just the nicest thing for you to offer. Is it still something you are interested in doing?'"

If she hem haws around, then you can say "if that won't work out, I understand. I just really appreciate that you even thought about it." and let it drop. 

If she says - "oh yes, I've been meaning to call you to set a date" then you can move on from there.

FutureMrsTR

Hopefully she's not trying to make your shower a surprise like my mom is.  Even though I told her I really don't like that idea.  She's really into, though, so whatever.

:::headdesk:::

FavoriteOne

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-question-not-sure?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f76377a-8587-4993-aedc-0409bea741f5Post:05a7ae2e-9ad0-4eb3-90f5-591adafbd937">Re: Shower question. Not sure what to do...</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>When she offered, did you accept?</strong>  If so, don't feel bad asking about it, she offered!  Just get in touch with her and let her know that you were looking at your calendar and just wondered if she had any dates in mind for the shower. Go from there.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

It was during the discussion about her son's shower that my parents are hosting... kind of a "and of course, we're going to have a shower for you two as well" response slid in there.

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-question-not-sure?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f76377a-8587-4993-aedc-0409bea741f5Post:6a8b7112-f8f2-42c1-baec-89d66bd94ec8">Re: Shower question. Not sure what to do...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower question. Not sure what to do... : It was during the discussion about her son's shower that my parents are hosting... kind of a "and of course, we're going to have a shower for you two as well" response slid in there.
Posted by FavoriteOne[/QUOTE]

In that case, I think skippylouwho's suggestion of how to approach her was great.

atayk21

I had the same thing happen to me. My friend mentioned having a Jack and Jill shower for us about a yr. before the wedding, so I made a list and everything for that shower but she never mentioned it again. I was a bit dissapointed but I was not going to ask her about it again. Im sure she remembered but I know she had a lot going on so I assume that's why it never happened. I would wait for her to come to you about it, don't be the first to bring it up. Just my opinion.

tommyandy

Agree with PP.  Just ask her, it may have slipped her mind.

kkropp

If that were me, I would just wait for her to say something. Maybe talk to your mom and see what she thinks.... I would just think it would be awkward if you asked.. money or other problems could have come up since.