need help please with invite etiquette!!

leilawantstogetmarried

hello fellow brides, i really need help. my fiancee and i are paying for our wedding and we have limited +ones to family and friends with significant others only. so not everyone gets a +one. my sisters (both in their 20's) do not have significant others but they are asking to bring a +one but i have said, "no." i did say that if they met a boy and wanted to bring a date, of course they could. but they just want to bring a friend. they don't even have one in mind yet...they just want to start asking. 

but i don't like the idea of a person that i don't know being there distracting my sisters...which will in turn mean that they won't make any effort to get to know my friends and have fn with them (and me).

my feelings about this aside they have informed me that my not allowing them a +one is against proper wedding etiquette. is this true?

Kate61487

No, it's not true.  You don't have to give dates to anyone not in a relationship.  It is pretty common, though, to give your bridal party the courtesy of a +1, since they're spending significantly more time and money on your wedding than a regular guest.  It wasn't clear from your post if they are BMs or not.

But, even though you're technically in the right, saying things like their guests would be "distracting my sisters" and "they won't make an effort to have fun with me" does make it seem very self centered and a little bridezilla-y.  If you have the budget for them to have dates this may not be a battle you want to fight.

chrmun

It's OK to not have plus ones for people who do not have significant others. That having been said, pick your battles. Sometimes being right and being happy are not the same thing. Bonus fact: "Invite" is a verb. "Invitation" is a noun.

EK2013

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[QUOTE]hello fellow brides, i really need help. my fiancee and i are paying for our wedding and we have limited +ones to family and friends with significant others only. so not everyone gets a +one. my sisters (both in their 20's) do not have significant others but they are asking to bring a +one but i have said, "no." i did say that if they met a boy and wanted to bring a date, of course they could. but they just want to bring a friend. they don't even have one in mind yet...they just want to start asking.  but i don't like the idea of a person that i don't know being there distracting my sisters...which will in turn mean that they won't make any effort to get to know my friends and have fn with them (and me). my feelings about this aside they have informed me that my not allowing them a +one is against proper wedding etiquette. is this true?
Posted by leilawantstogetmarried[/QUOTE]

Who do you picture sitting your sisters with? Your friends? Your family?<div>If you <em>don'</em>t sit them with your friends, they're unlikely to make an effort to get to know your friends regardless of whether they bring a date or not, so you should probably keep that in mind when you orchestrate tables.</div><div>
</div><div>It is absolutely fine for you not to give them +1s. Etiquette doesn't demand it if they're not seeing anyone.</div>