Invite officiant?

alexkahayna

I read recentlly that it is the norm to invite your officiant to the reception. I have nothing against that, just would like to know as in out of common courtesy is it the  proper thing?  

itzMS

Your question is a little difficult to understand.

I will say that most couples invite their priest or officiant (and his or her spouse as applicable) out of courtesy. Unless you have a personal relationship with him/her, it is just a courtesy and not really "required" per se.

We did not invite ours as he made it abundantly clear that it was not necessary.

Since you have a week and a half until your wedding...it might be a bit late to extend that invite in your case!

lyndausvi

I'm believe that if you get married in a house of worship or a friend officiates then yes you invite them.

If it's just  run of the mill vendor, then no.   I didn't invite mine for that reason.   He also said he doesn't see the point either.  None of my officiant friends in the islands doing all those DW were invited either.

alexkahayna

Sorry that my question was a bit difficult to understand . I thought it was  simple . lol. I have no problem inviting her because she can be reached really easy and she's very accesible. I just want to make sure to practice common courtesy. At least we'll be ok asking and then it will be up to her to decline or accept.

Thank you!

LaSak87

The priest that married us was H's great-uncle so it was an easy decision.  I agree that if it is just someone you "hire" to do the job, it isn't necessary.

itzMS

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-officiant-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1fbadeff-1a35-4196-bd12-58518a4c90f5Post:9f419383-cba6-40dd-85df-2120fdb4b1b9">Re: Invite officiant?</a>:
[QUOTE]Sorry that my question was a bit difficult to understand  . I thought it was  simple . lol.<strong> I have no problem inviting her because she can be reached really easy and she's very accesible</strong>. I just want to make sure to practice common courtesy. At least we'll be ok asking and then it will be up to her to decline or accept. Thank you! :)
Posted by alexkahayna[/QUOTE]

I think you missed the point. You have 12 days until your wedding and you did not send her a formal invitation, so I think you should just let it go.

At this point, you'd be putting her on the spot and it would be clear that inviting her was an afterthought.

harper0813

Question: I've seen mixed responses on whether to invite an officiant (a judge) that you do not know short of discussing his services and booking him. What's the consensus?

tlc35

In Response to Re:Invite officiant?:[QUOTE]Question: I've seen mixed responses on whether to invite an officiant a judge that you do not know short of discussing his services and booking him. What's the consensus? Posted by zoberg[/QUOTE]
This is exactly my situation and I am not inviting him. I don't have an address besides his jop office and I don't know if he is married and I haven't met him. I will meet him when I bring him the licence. Jmo.