ty cards-- still waiting on photos...

kdevin27

My wedding was June 8- I wanted to print custom thank you cards but my photographer said our pictures won’t be ready for another 2-3 weeks. Is it too long to wait until then to send them out?? I’m so prompt with these types of things but I wanted our thank you cards to be custom.  I’m afraid the pics we got from our family and friends aren’t a good enough resolution to use on our cards.

StephBeanWed61502

I think as long as you have them put within 6 or so weeks you should be okay. I know I usually expect wedding thank yous to take a little longer than the standard 2 weeks because I usually figure the couple went on a honeymoon, possibly had to figure out moving in together, etc. I am not sure what the official etiquette rule is though.

Mrs.B6302007

I'm with Stage on what I feel is doable for wedding TYs.  A month, tops. 

It's already been 5 weeks and you still have another 2-3 weeks just to get the cards in your possession plus the time that it will take to write them.  I would try really hard to get them all written within a week (or less) and get them in the post box immediately.  It's too easy for a a few days of sitting around waiting to be finished to turn into a week or more.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]I'm in the minority here because I think that the two week rule is still plenty for after a wedding (that is 2 weeks after returning from the honeymoon), and I just don't get making people wait for their TY so that you can have cute photo cards or whatever else printed up.  The important part is the actual note written in it and not whatever is printed on the outside. 
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Me, too. I'd much rather get a note in a timely manner than wait forever to get a pretty card with the couple's photo.</div>

mcskatcat

I personally would have told the photog before the wedding to get you a shot within the first week if that's what you wanted to do.  I think you're quickly running into "too late" time.  We did the photo TYs, but we had them out about a month after our wedding (which we actually waited an extra week so they wouldn't be in with all the Christmas mail at the time.)   I would get to work and get them out soon.

Edit:  Also, have you considered asking friends for a photo?  Anymore there seems to be tons of photos on Facebook, so maybe someone grabbed one you could use?  

AdeleDazeem

Because we didn't want to wait for our professional photos, I made a collage of some photos from our honeymoon in Bermuda - pretty ocean, dolphins, moongates, etc - and printed them for our thank you cards.  Still personalized but thank yous were out within three weeks of our wedding.

rlavach

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[QUOTE]<strong>I personally would have told the photog before the wedding to get you a shot within the first week if that's what you wanted to do. </strong> I think you're quickly running into "too late" time.  We did the photo TYs, but we had them out about a month after our wedding (which we actually waited an extra week so they wouldn't be in with all the Christmas mail at the time.)   I would get to work and get them out soon. Edit:  Also, have you considered asking friends for a photo?  Anymore there seems to be tons of photos on Facebook, so maybe someone grabbed one you could use?  
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]
That's what we did. I had no problem waiting a month for it & have no issue with waiting a few months to receive a TY card (with or without photo). We sent them out right under 2 months. We had A LOT of people say they couldn't believe they got it so fast, especially with a photo. So while it should be sent out quickly, it doesn't happen so much in the real world.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ty cards-- still waiting on photos... : That's what we did. I had no problem waiting a month for it & have no issue with waiting a few months to receive a TY card (with or without photo). We sent them out right under 2 months. We had A LOT of people say they couldn't believe they got it so fast, especially with a photo. So while it should be sent out quickly, it doesn't happen so much in the real world.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

<div>All of my TYs were sent out within a week after returning from our HM. We did not do photo cards because it was more important to me to get them out in a reasonable time than to have my picture on them.</div><div>
</div><div>In my circle, TYs are usually sent out within the first month, or they aren't sent out at all. Guess which one I prefer.</div>

Loopyseven

I would prefer a card sooner rather than wait for one with a cutesy picture on it.  Honestly.  I have not saved a single thank you note from friends/family who got married, whether it had a picture on it or not.  Sending me a picture thank you is a waste of $ as it will go in the trash after I have read the card and showed it to H.  The sentiment in the thank you is much more important than a picture.  Don't even get me started on the people who send out photo thank yous that just have a generic Thank You pre-printed on them and don't bother to write a personal note on it before putting it in the envelope.

rlavach

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ty cards-- still waiting on photos... : All of my TYs were sent out within a week after returning from our HM. We did not do photo cards because it was more important to me to get them out in a reasonable time than to have my picture on them. In my circle, TYs are usually sent out within the first month, or they aren't sent out at all. Guess which one I prefer.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
That's great that you were able to get them out so quickly. <div>
</div><div>OP, as you can see, expectations can vary by area and by circle. So if everyone around you is getting them out under 1-2 months, then it is likely that you're guests will be confused/offended that they haven't received anything yet when it gets past that. If they're like those around me who usually don't get anything until 6+ months, then you're fine. </div>

ems27

I really valued and appreciated the personalized thank-you that my sister sent out for her wedding- I still have it as it is a very nice portrait of the pair, with a meaningful message on the back.  It would probably be tucked away with all my other thank-you/birthday/etc cards if not for the glossy photo on the front.

If you are actually getting the thank-yous through your photographer, I think it would have been fair of them to tell you that it could be a month and a half to two months to get the cards during the summer; if not, I think that getting a nice photo off of friends or family and printing your thank-yous using that would be a high enough quality/resolution to get them out a little sooner.

shanliann

i would talk to your photographer,, by now they have to have a good chunk of your pictures editied and ready for you, why would they get you  a disk with the 10 best so far? or something to work with you for this matter!

Summer2011Bride

We did pics on the TY cards but told our photographer ahead of time and he included those pics in our sneak peek that he e-mailed us the week after the wedding. Our HM was 10 days and by the time we got home, ordered the TY notes online (rush delivery) and finished writing every single one, it was beginning of Sept (wedding was end of July). But for our circle, 1.5 months or so is perfectly normal for TY cards. Unfortunately, it's not uncommon to NEVER get a TY card as we've been to 4 weddings where we gave gifts and never received one. Obviously doesn't make it right, but I agree with the others that as far as when they must be sent out, different circles find different things appropriate.

If it's still going to be another 3 weeks though, I would proably see if you can use a wedding pic that a friend or relative snapped and use that instead for your TY cards or just do a TY card sans photo.

banana468

I think you need to get them out ASAP.

Use the photos for holiday cards.

RebeccaB88

I would just get the thank you notes ASAP. You're running out of time to get them out within a proper amount of time.  The picture is a cute idea, but it's not worth offending people by not sending out the notes in a timely manner.  Most people are just going to throw it away anyway. 

carolemb

I've gotten all the TY notes for cards, gifts, etc out but I was wondering if anyone sent out a batch of Thank you's to everyone just thanking them for attending the wedding? Anyone do this in addition to the TY's for the gifts, money and cards?

banana468

Stage, I'm not a fan of the tardy TY note but to use the excuse that you can't write them without a photo of yourself just seems SO narcissistic.  Really?  Telling me that you liked the item I gave you isn't possible unless I look at your picture while I read your sentiments in print?   It completetely takes away the meaning of the note IMO.