Adults Only Reception

caseyhaupt

Hello!!
My fiance and I are wanting to have an adults only reception for a few different reasons.  However, I'm having a problem with how to let our guests know.  Should we put it in the invitations?  If so, how can we word it without sounding super rude!?  Thanks so much for your feed back!! 

misshart00

Just address invitations to only the people invited, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith". No need to put adults only. It's never polite to point out who's not invited.

mlg78

All you do is address it to who you would like to attend.  If someone RSVPs back with a cihld listed just explain it directly to them.  Most people are able to figure it out though...

McRogol

The vibe on this board is to NOT write - ADULTS ONLY.  Apparently, this is bad etiquette.  PP have told the correct etiquette route which it write the names of those invited on the invite and if anyone RSVPs with extra guest you contact them to clarify.

genki_as_hell

The only problem with the tradtional etiquette thing is I feel like a lot of people who haven't planned a wedding really don't know. My parents never had a big wedding to do (just the courthouse and some friends over for dinner) and they definitely don't get it -- I've seen them repeatedly ask embarrassed brides somewhere in the family "can we bring xyz" and she sheepishly says yes. When I was younger I thought it was no big deal but now looking back, I feel like a lot of the time asking at all is a pressure that some brides have a hard time saying no to...

So in some cases I think it might be warranted. Maybe better to put it on the wedding website though? 

likeadeadstar

We're having an adults-only reception and luckily, we have next-to-no one on the list with kids anyway.

In the case of a relative with a toddler, we're addressing the invite to "Joe and June Relative" and the RSVP card clearly states "Two seats have been reserved in your honour" with individual lines for each person to accept and decline.  I've also let my dad word of mouth the no kids thing to people from his side, so I'm hoping that all sorts out.

Grozikn

I put it on my wedding website... some of my family are very traditional too and may not get it if it's not written or told to them directly. I just write that we are asking only children of immediate family or the wedding party should attend unless they are 13 or older. We just couldn't possibly accomodate all of the children in our family. Soooo I definitely understand.