Divorced Parents

ashstwrt

Hey girls -- Question for you! Fi's parents are divorced.  For most of his life, he lived with his mom and step-dad.  He visited his dad and step-mom regularly, though.  How do I word this on the program for the wedding ceremony? All of the examples I have list: 

Parents of the Bride: Mr. and Mrs. Such and Such

Parents of the Groom: Mr. and Mrs. Such and Such

Should I do....

Parents of the Groom: Mr. and Mrs. Mom & Step-dad

     Mr. and Mrs. Dad & Step-mom ??

Lyss5782

I am pretty sure "and" signifies marriage.  I would do the second one.

scoetto

Yup. That looks right to me!

Lyss5782

oh i see, i thought you were asking if it should be mr bio dad and mrs bio mom vs the two sets including the step-parents.  regardless, the way you put it looks fine to me....

lauralaur

I would do it the second way and list all of them.

squirrly

Parents of the Bride
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Parents of the Groom
Mrs. Jane Doe                 Mr. James Thompson
and Mr. David Doe           and Mrs. Sarah Thompson

umsldispatcher

Do the familes of you and your FI, then no ones names is on their but you cover it all, that is what we did. My parents are still married and going strong however my FI parents are divorced and his dad is remarried and has been for like 20 years. Plus none of the parents are paying for the wedding, we are paying for it.

simplebride_24

My parents are divorced as well as my FI's, mine are both remarried his are not.  My program will look like this:

Parents of the Bride:  Mr. and Mrs. FATHER LAST NAME

                                   Mrs. and Mr. MOTHER NEW LAST NAME

 

Parents of the Groom: Ms. MOM 

                                     Mr. DAD

 

miss.jawright

We are saying Jen and Josh along with thier families.... since we have so many step parents it would be too confusing. (multiple marriage on each side I figure it's whatever you are comfortable with.

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_divorced-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:20e5e92b-2e8a-4344-b829-6a54818c754fPost:92e17ad9-d79f-4b6a-8d8c-368a1380c3c1">Re: Divorced Parents</a>:
[QUOTE]Do the familes of you and your FI, then no ones names is on their but you cover it all, that is what we did. My parents are still married and going strong however my FI parents are divorced and his dad is remarried and has been for like 20 years. Plus none of the parents are paying for the wedding, we are paying for it.
Posted by umsldispatcher[/QUOTE]

OP is listing the names for her wedding ceremony program, not invitations, so whoever is paying is irrelevant for this. I think she should list all parents by name, in the second format. They all deserve to be listed by name in the program.

tommyandy

All the templates on the wedding invite & paper websites have the bio-mom & spouse listed before the bio-dad & spouse.  

How did you word it on the invite?  If you put dad first on the invite, put mom first on the program, that way they each get to be listed first.

vandermark08

Ohhhhhhh We just had this conversation the other day! My FI's parents are divorced as well...to eliminate ANYONE getting their feelings hurt...our invites will read " Together with their parents... Melissa XXX & Daniel XXX request the honor...." and so on and so forth... That is also saving my on my invites so we dont have 3 sets of parents listed.