My parents have be seperated for about a year and a half now after 30 years of marriage. There is no divorce date set at this time. My father swears he didn't cheat on my mom, but there's evidence to support quite the opposite. While this was the final straw, there were a number of other issues in the marriage, and my brother and I believe they would have seperated anyway. We recently attended my paternal grandmother's funeral where he brought the "other woman" and it was a lot of stress for the entire family (which of course my dad ignored). My mother was extremely hurt that she was there at a family event and refuses to accept that my dad will continue to bring this woman to family functions. My father either doesn't care or is to ignorant to the fact that it makes everyone, including his siblings, uncomfortable.
Also, my father and I have had issues for the past 14 years and have not always gotten along. At this point I am planning on inviting him, but walking myself down the isle. I do not believe that he will be contributing financial.
My issue is this -
Dad shouldn't bring girlfriend b/c she was involved in the marriage falling apart BUT they have been together for over a year now, so she should be invited based on the criteria we are using for other people's date. I am not so concerned about the wedding date, that's a year and a half from now - but we are trying to hash our who's paying, who's invited to the engagement party, blah blah blah... and I really don't want this woman there. I have literally spoken to her once and it was a 5 word conversation.
I know that by inviting my father that he will bring her, which will set my mother off. I really wish that everyone would just grow up and deal with it for a day BUT that's not likely. And telling him she's not invited will mean he will not be present for anything, including the wedding.
Also, I feel bad for FI's family b/c they are in the middle of this!
What the heck is a girl to do???