Wedding Registry

stargazer841

Me and my sister got into a debate last night about wedding registries. I personally think gifts should never be expected and it's rude to include any registry information in wedding invites. My sister believes since most guests have no idea what to give as a gift, including registry information isn't tacky and you're helping guests out by giving them an idea of what you like/need. So, my question is, etiquette wise, who is right? Furthermore, if you do decide to create a wedding registry, how do you go about letting guests know without coming off as being rude/tacky?

p.s. Sorry if this has been asked a million times already. I haven't been here that long and couldn't find a search function.

Brie2010

It's tacky to put registry info in an invite.

People will be able to figure it out through word of mouth or Google.  It's not that hard to figure out where people are registered now that everything's online.

quotequeen

It is rude to include registry information in wedding invitations.

You let people know where you are registered by telling them when they ask what gifts you might like.  You can also put it on your website.

quotequeen

Also, if you had scrolled down even a little bit you would have found this thread:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-invitation

stargazer841

Thanks for the replies. quotequeen, I didn't browse through this board before posting this topic, my sincerest apologies.

myother1

We have a wedding website where guests had the option of RSVPing electronically (yay for a web developer FI) in addition to/in lieu of the traditional mailed RSVP. 

We put the website address on the RSVP card in small lettering: "You can also RSVP electronically at..." 

It seems to be working really well.  We had about 95% of the RSVPs returned, plus everyone could also get hotel info, directions, and registry information on the site.  We tracked the visitors through google analytics, and we've gotten a pretty steady stream of visitors.  We're hoping that the technology deficient will get the registry information from their more savvy friends. 

jnic0319

It is not rude to put registry info in to shower invites, just wedding invites.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Before the internet, people would ask the wedding party or family members where the couple was registered. Baring that, they'd askt he couple. They can also search a few popular stores (Target, Bed Bath and Beyond, Crate and Barrel) and se if your registry comes up. Or google. Most people have used one before, so don't worry about them not finding it.

banana468

Your sister is wrong.

Registry info NEVER goes in the wedding invitation.

People figure this stuff out quite easily.