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Officiant etiquette..

We recently booked the officiaint for our wedding and he's a local judge. I'm unsure of what the etiquette is for inviting him to the rehearsal dinner and wedding. Do we need to invite him? Do we invite him and his wife? I'm all about inviting him if that's what is appropriate but I have no idea what needs to be done..

Re: Officiant etiquette..

  • Well I didn't have a rehearsal, but we did not invite our officent to the reception. He was a JOP and we hired him purely as a vendor. I don't think he would have stayed even if we asked him, I'm pretty sure he had a few more weddings to attend that day.

    I think if your officient is someone you have a relationship with or someone from your church it is normal to invite them and their spouse, but if it is just a vendor don't worry about it.
  • My guess is you might have to pay him for his time if you have him to the rehearsal dinner since he is technically a vendor in your wedding. If he was a church minister it could go either way

  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited January 2012
    Like Anna, we also had a JOP. She didn't come to the rehearsal. We did invite her to the wedding but she wasn't able to make it. Edit: I meant reception. She obviously came to the ceremony but not reception
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  • "we also had a JOP. She didn't come to the rehearsal. We did invite her to the wedding but she wasn't able to make it."

    So who officated the wedding?
  • Ha, I need to edit that. I meant to write reception.
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  • We were married by bith a JOP (a friend of mine) and a minister (a friend of my dad's).  Both came to the rehersal dinner, but not spouses.  They both came to the reception too, as did the minister's wife (JOP didn't bring a date).
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  • My grandma worked for a judge for many years and I was actually on his campaign trail when I was a kid to get him elected, so it means a lot to me that agreed to officiate our wedding. We're inviting him to stay for the reception. It helps that my venue lets vendors stay and eat for free and aren't included as part of our headcount.
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  • I think that it would be a very nice gesture to invite him and his wife to the RD and the reception.
  • Ok, so the way it sounds is that everyone thinks an invitation to both is what seems appropriate and whether or not he comes will be up to him.. thanks ladies!

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