"and Guest" question

lindsay5432

If a single lady is invited with a "guest", is it ok for her to bring whomever she wishes as her guest, or is it meant to be someone with whom she has a romantic relationship?   Would it be rude for her to bring her sister, or a girlfriend, etc?

shortee426

If she is in a romantic relationship with someone you should find out that person's name and put it on the invite.  If you invite her with a guest, she can bring anyone she chooses.

laurenclaire1386

I don't see why not. When you invite someone with a guest, you don't really have any control over who that guest is.

Beachy730

If it just says "& guest" you are welcome to bring anyone you choose.  

MattsPenguin

Yup, whomever you would like.  Before I met FI, the only time I brought a guest for my "& guest" was that I brought my BFF, who was also a sorority sister of the bride and knew her really well. 

But you can bring anyone that you'd like.

[Deleted User]

One time when I was single, I was invited to a coworker's wedding with a guest. I brought my mom as my guest. I asked the coworker ahead of time if it was ok. But suffice it to say, I see no issue with the "guest" being anyone, if the invitation indicates "and guest" for a single person.

ajroark

I think "and guest" implies whoever you want to accompany you to the wedding, whether romantic relationship or not.

jmkaiser

I'm very cautious of the "and guest" for our invites only because FI and I were at a wedding last summer where one of the Bms brought her "and guest". The bride and groom were totally against the choice but they were stuck with it because it was the BMs choice of who to bring. The girl ended up hitting on the groom's dad, uncle, brother, and tried dancing with the groom during the first dance...Yikes.

I think I only put one "and guest on our list" and we are comfortable with who this person would chose to bring with.

Just whatever you do, make sure you are comfortable with the choice your guest would make in chosing their +1. Otherwise don't do it.

kitkat610

I think they should be able to bring whoever they choose.
However, I had a friend who was a BM in a wedding. She had a +1 because she was in a relationship (I guess) but he was not named. When they broke up, she asked the bride if she could bring just a friend bc she wouldn't know many people.
The bride said yes *as long as its a boy* I thought this was weird.

Karen's MOH

Technically, yes, you are free to bring anyone you choose as a guest.

However, most people I know give it the side eye when someone brings a friend as company. Right or wrong, I know a lot of people are slightly put off by it, especially when the person already knows people at the wedding. One girl friend of mine brought a friend and told me, she loves weddings and free drinks so I figured I would bring her! I was fine with it, really, but putting it like that all I could think was, well, they aren't actually free, I'm paying for those drinks...

But yeah, bring who you want, knowing some people might think your choice is weird