What is the etiquette for a destination event? Do all guests need to be invited to the rehersal dinner? The guest list is around 100, with the actual wedding being at a 5 star hotel. I have tried to explain to my daughter that my thought is that all should be included. She suggested a "lunch" (a way to keep costs down) or cocktail reception. We have given her a budget for the actual wedding and reception. Anything over that, the bride and groom are paying for, and we are not quite sure what the grooms family is contributing. Any thoughts?