For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)...

m1schlueter

Is it okay to put "no guests under 18" on your invitation (or the RSVP card)? And if it is, can you then allow some kids to your wedding who are not in your party?

laurenclaire1386

No and no. What's up with your subject line?

salt78

Watch out, LC. You're liable to get b!tchslapped.

[Deleted User]

No and hell no.

I think your subject line is rude.

kikibaby

Well, if anyone under 18 shows up, just bitchslap them.

Snippylynn

Blah blah blah.  I like me some troll-ness though, personally.  Keep it up hobag.

brilibby4

Umm your subject title confuses me.  However, the answer is no.  Address the invite to those invited.  Do not send invitations to those under 18 if you do not want them at your wedding.  If someone adds an under 18-year-old to their RSVP card, call them and apologize but say the invite was only for mom and dad not child. 

EDIT: I guess I didn't understand the second part of the question.  Invite who you, fi, and whoever is paying for the wedding.  If you want kids there, invite them.  If not, don't. 

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Watch out, LC. You're liable to get b!tchslapped.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
My pimp hand is strong. I'm not scared :)

m1schlueter

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[QUOTE]No and no. What's up with your subject line?
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

So how do you make sure no one under the age of 18 comes? Besides just addressing the invite to the two adults. That doesn't work.

The subject line is for the usual b!tches that are so super b!tchy when they reply...instead of being nice. If they don't have to be nice, I don't have to be. I actually think they enjoy the title...so let them have it.

emilyinchile

Why do you want our advice anyway? Or is it to know that you should do the opposite of whatever we say since we are all evil bitches?

[Deleted User]

MUD

kikibaby

I don't think I've seen a single post from you without the word bitch in it.  Get over it woman.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : So how do you make sure no one under the age of 18 comes? Besides just addressing the invite to the two adults. That doesn't work. The subject line is for the usual b!tches that are so super b!tchy when they reply...instead of being nice. If they don't have to be nice, I don't have to be. I actually think they enjoy the title...so let them have it.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]


You hire a bouncer to b!tchslap them if they try to come in the door.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : So how do you make sure no one under the age of 18 comes? Besides just addressing the invite to the two adults. <strong>That doesn't work.</strong> <strong>The subject line is for the usual b!tches that are so super b!tchy when they reply</strong>...instead of being nice. If they don't have to be nice, I don't have to be. I actually think they enjoy the title...so let them have it.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]
Sure it does. Address the envelopes properly. If they RSVP with more or with children, call and explain you aren't inviting children. Politely.

And if we're all super bitchy biitches, then go ask somewhere else. You're not making people very inclined to give a shite about your problem right now.

Snippylynn

You know, it's funny how I can get banned for using swear words occasionally, but this chick runs around like a diarrhea bitch mouth and yet...

Anyway, I'm not going to take time to seriously answer any question you pose cause, well, you're pretty obviously a troll.

mandapanda78

Personally I would put "Grown azz b!tches ONLY, ya hear??" somewhere on the invite itself. That should convey your message clearly enough.

m1schlueter

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[QUOTE]I don't usually call people bitches and then ask them for advice but hey, I have good etiquette so what do I know?  And I'm pretty sure you could have figured out how people were going to answer this without having to ask.
Posted by suze423[/QUOTE]

Sure, it works. Mostly because those girls knew who I was talking about. And they all responded.

I could have guessed but I wanted to know what they all thought. Sometimes the addressing to the guests (and not to the children work) but based on other posts of all kinds of people showing up with other guests they didn't RSVP for (like children not invited). I figured there is surely a proper way of handling this that went beyond the address on the invite.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Actual advice (Why, I don't know): some people customize the RSVP cards with the names of those they invite or put "2 seats have been reserved in your honor" to get the hint across even more. So your RSVP card might look like:

John Smith ___ accepts __ declines
__ chicken ___beef __ vegetarian

Jane Smith ___ accepts __ declines
__ chicken ___beef __ vegetarian

georgia_bride09

At the bottom of your invite, you write "Adults Only" in really big script.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : Sure, it works. Mostly because those girls knew who I was talking about. And they all responded. <strong>I could have guessed</strong> but I wanted to know what they all thought. Sometimes the addressing to the guests (and not to the children work) but based on other posts of all kinds of people showing up with other guests they didn't RSVP for (like children not invited). I figured there is surely a proper way of handling this that went beyond the address on the invite.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

Or, you know, looked. Lurked? Researched? Because you are not the first person to ask this question.

ETA: I use the term "person" loosely as that implies I think this poster is not a troll.

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : Sure, it works. <strong>Mostly because those girls knew who I was talking about. And they all responded.</strong> I could have guessed but I wanted to know what they all thought. Sometimes the addressing to the guests (and not to the children work) but based on other posts of all kinds of people showing up with other guests they didn't RSVP for (like children not invited). I figured there is surely a proper way of handling this that went beyond the address on the invite.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

Name names.

m1schlueter

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[QUOTE]At the bottom of your invite, you write "Adults Only" in really big script.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

This is sarcastic right?

kikibaby

We responded to something on the board we frequent?  Imagine that!

mgietler76

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : <strong>Name names.
</strong>Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

This, I'm curious but still think troll

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : This is sarcastic right?
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

You seem to know everything. You tell me.

mandapanda78

Fuuck, so I responded therefor I am a b!tch. But wait! Doesn't that also mean I'm perfect? I'm so conflicted!

ohwhynot

You're a perfect bitch, Manda. 

wadingmoose

I'm torn.  I don't see myself as an etiquette biitch (oxymoron much?) , but I need to answer this.

You know how you solve your problem?  You address invitations to those people you WANT to invite.    Simple.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]You're a perfect bitch, Manda. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

<div>I am, OWN. I really, really am. </div>

m1schlueter

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[QUOTE]You seem to know everything. You tell me.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Oh but I don't....that's why I come to you all and your perfect etiquette.

m1schlueter

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the etiquette b!tches (you know who you are)... : I sense sarcasm.  Anyone else? Also, I'd like to hear more of your theories about my second marriage (and wedding) since you've stopped responding in the other thread.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I was just asking for clarification. I am positive that everyone that knows proper etiquette would never do anything that would be considered tacky or rude or<strong> </strong>passé. Or do anything that would get the side eyes from anyone. That is why you get to be here to tell others how it should be done.