Awkward situation...

SarahF20

As we are starting to finalize our guest list we have ran into a bit of a sticky situation...

My FI and I have been together off and on since highschool, with a one year breakup that involved a crazy, 4 month engagement between him and another girl. That obviously didn't work out, but the problem is, her mother is his mother's best friend, and has been for 25 years. My FMIL mentioned possibly inviting the mother, but I don't know how comfortable I am with the situation (the ex fiance is crazy...like so crazy if she saw the invite to her parents she would show up and do something nuts probably). I also am not very fond of the mother, and feel like it would just be weird to invite her, but I also think it might be rude to not invite her since she is best friends with my FMIL still.

What should we do??

briamy

What does your FI think about this? If he feels that it would be uncomfortable just as much as you do, then I say don't invite her. She is not blood related and if she is not close to you or FI then I don't think you need to extend an invite, but talk to FMIL about it and make sure there would be no hurt feelings on her end. I would think that she would understand, especially if you say you have to cut the guest list due to budget/space etc...  Family is important and if they are helping to pay, I do think they get some suggestions and should be able to invite friends, but if there is a sort of past or history with someone involved, I think you have a good reason to not feel comfortable asking her. So I guess my advice is to again talk to FI and FMIL about it clearly, say how you feel in a respectful manner and take it from there:)

SarahNicole80

I do not find it appropriate to invite this woman on your behalf. However, since this is the best from of your FMIL I can see how she has ties to the family and your fiance. I agree that it is his call.